I don't care to always understand all the time, don't care to be the bigger person anymore.
Hi Hivers, it's Abeegail again, welcome to my blog. What people won't care to understand is that EMPATHY BURNOUT is a real thing. Even the most empathetic people need a break sometimes from always being understanding.
As an Empathetic person, I cater to other people's feelings, I understand that people have it rough and that I have to be easy on people, but it gets so exhausting to cater to people's feelings all the time, it's exhausting when people expect you to be understanding all the time.
Phrases like, "they're just overwhelmed", "they're just figuring themselves out", "they're just trying their best" is not uncommon for me but guess what, I'm also overwhelmed and figuring it out too but I try my best to not let it affect others. It’s always, “Try to see where they’re coming from." "Try to put yourself in their shoes." But rarely "that wasn't nice of them." Or "that was inconsiderate of them." Being understanding has become a social demand, it's no longer offered, It’s expected. People expect you to put up with their shitty attitude just because.
Being understanding slowly starts becoming stifling. I'm tired of explaining bad behavior, I'm tired of uderstanding your trauma, stress, and wounds. I'm tired of understanding that you're healing from something, I'm tired of softening my pain so others don't feel uncomfortable. I'm tired of turning the disrespect into something that is easier to accept. At some point being understanding becomes a labor that no one asked you to do.
Most time, Empathetic people, especially women, are expected to carry everyone else’s emotional weight, to be considerate of others. We’re expected to be patient, soft, forgiving, and understanding while others move through life without reflection. I strongly believe that caring for others shouldn't be this draining and unfair, so I'm taking a step back, I'm protecting my own peace because people won't care where you are giving from, all they want to do is take. This doesn't mean that I don't care anymore, just thatI have boundaries; this means being emotionally available to people who show the same harmful patterns, people who apologize without changing, and people who expect grace but never take responsibility.
I don’t care to be understanding anymore, because even the most empathetic people need to be a little selfish sometimes.
It's Abeegail✨💗
Still empathetic, just not compromising,
Thanks for reading,
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