Embracing minimalism has a lot of benefits attached in the long run, but it's not always an easy decision from the onset. It requires lots of determination and being intentional, and these are attributes I find very common among true minimalists in the world today. That's why whenever a minimalist has their mind fixed on something positive, there is usually no going back until they achieve those goals.
Minimalism is completely a different approach to life that involves discarding what's unnecessary and embracing what really matters, which can be quite challenging, especially when we have a strong connection with those things that need to be discarded.
I have said it a few times that my lifestyle had always aligned with minimalism to an extent even before I understood what it means to be a complete minimalist, so I didn't see myself having issues embracing this unique lifestyle wholeheartedly, but after considering how much it would influence my relationship with a lot of people, I was confused.
"I can practice minimalism in other areas of my life while my relationship with people would just remain the old way," I told myself severally, but the fact that I might be restricting myself from enjoying the goodness that comes with embracing minimalism completely crossed my mind always.
I moved on with keeping my relationship intact with people, but it was stressful trying to cope. At a point, I couldn't suppress my new lifestyle from influencing my relationship with people any further, and so many things change. My opinions about issues changed; I picked up different interests that were tagged boring, and slowly, we disconnected.
Honestly, I didn't push anyone away. I just wanted them to see things from my perspective as well, but it doesn't sit well with many of those I called friends. My circle depreciated in numbers but increased a lot in value, and I saw the impact of the few left with me.
Eventually, I came to the conclusion that if as a minimalist my happiness is what truly matters, then it's pointless holding on to people who wouldn't put me into consideration for a second. I settled well with the few, and life was smooth for me. I felt zero pressure or stress trying to maintain my relationship with the few friends I had, and we were able to bond even better than we used to do.
A few years past, and this feeling of missing out on things happening around me started bothering me. I thought about a lot of things and concluded that it would be great to have a good number of friends with whom we can journey together in life. I made new friends, and even before we bonded well, I already saw signs that I made the wrong decision.
These people added nothing but took away a lot from me within a very short period. I didn't hesitate to let them go immediately and accepted the fact that I don't need a multitude of friends to have a great life. I stopped worrying about what my friend would think of me or whatever I was missing out on. I invested more in those who understood and embraced me for who I am.
Fortunately for me, I have a very understanding family, and they didn't even make me feel like an outcast. Although it was challenging letting them go, making myself a priority helped me make the right decision.
Reflecting on my journey today makes me happy because I don't have any regrets embracing minimalism, there is no regret letting those people go and I even wish I knew better earlier. In the end, I am happy and that's what matters.
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I have known minimalist life for a long time for a friendship. Those who come, sometimes are quicker to leave, because they know I don't like to waste time. especially a toxic relationship.
One thing I noticed is that Minimalism helps get rid of every bit of irrelevance in your life so when people leave because they don't feel comfortable with your lifestyle then, they aren't important.
It's not just people, it includes possession and even habits.
I love that. I always like seeing how minimalism impacts one's personal choices, not just what we have in our wardrobe or so on. I dare say you've got a great attitude and you're not missing out :) But maybe I'm biased.
Honestly, I am not missing out on anything and life has been a lot prettier with the few people who don't see my lifestyle as a problem.
And yes, Minimalism is beyond just wardrobe affairs. There are definitely other parts of our lives that Minimalism can influence if we allow.
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In the end, you don't need to push people away. It's enough to start setting boundaries and respecting yourself for the good people to stay and the rotten apples to vanish :)
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That's right, pushing people away isn't really necessary because with time, those who are meant to leave will definitely go.
Yes, we need to live a life of purpose, taking out the excess and embracing life with meaning. It's good you filtered the people in your life and now it has paid off.