DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Hello Hivers

Domestic violence. What's your take on this?

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Today I want to talk about marriage and how people take it. In Nigeria for example, it is believed that once you are married you are bound for life irrespective of what happens there. We are always so excited to get married so I have some questions I would like your opinions on.

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I used to have this neighbor that married an abusive husband. He maltreated her a lot and she stayed on for the sake of her kids. Then one faithful day, the husband hit her as usual and she slumped. She died before she got to the hospital. After everything, the kids were left without a mother. And this got me thinking.

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A friend of mine was also experiencing domestic violence, she too stayed on because of the kids. It kept getting worse by the day. So after my neighbor died, she quietly went and rented am apartment and as the husband left for work, she took her kids and left. Today she's alive and happy. Her kids are in the university. Was it easy for her? No. People mocked her, things were very difficult for her. But eventually, she succeeded. Against all odds.

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We go into marriage with all the excitement and then things slowly start changing. So I ask, Is it that you married the wrong spouse or you are not patient enough to get to know each other better. Take for instance domestic violence, is there any justification for a man to hit his wife or a woman beating up her husband? Just wondering.

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I would like to know your thoughts on domestic violence. What the you think causes it? Is it right or wrong? Can it be stopped? Is there any possibility that the abusive partner will change? Should one be made to remain in a marriage where he or she suffers domestic violence? What should be done in such cases. Is divorce right or wrong? Why are divorced women stigmatized in this part of the world? How can people overcome the trauma of abusive relationships? Is it wise to stay on just because of children?

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I would really love to get you responses on this.