Midlife Crisis...

in BDCommunity3 years ago

There is a thing called a midlife crisis. However, nowadays these crises come down much earlier in our life. At that stage of life, people lose all enthusiasm. Everything seems meaningless. It seems that all life is in vain. If only everything could be restarted. No plan of life is working properly anymore, the mind no longer wants to think of anything. So there's a situation.

At such times, mood swings can occur frequently. After trying to laugh out loud, the mind gets lost somewhere else. You can't understand yourself properly. We don't like loneliness, but not the noise either at this moment. It would be nice if we could do something right, but you can't find that one. Rather, as more disgust towards life increases, the air of depression becomes heavier.

At such a time life becomes like a car running without a driver. There is no control. It doesn't even want to think about the destination. Everything became so painful that even if this car was involved in a new accident, it would not be able to do anything.

When bad times are prolonged, psychologists may call it depression. Often the cause of depression is not well understood. Everything seems so messy that it is difficult to separate the problem. At this time, we feel very hopeless, vandalism continues in our minds. We may not like being with anyone. The last train of the night leaves the station, sleep does not come.

It is frightening to see the flickering light losing itself in the dim light. Even if something good happens in a hurry in life, it is uncomfortable to meet a good person. You can't fit yourself anywhere. An insurmountable distance is gradually created with everyone.

The feeling of there is nothing when everything is still here gets intense. Little by little anger begins to increase. The mood never gets the right path. An urge to see the end of everything gets stronger. The normal tone of life is cut off. It feels like I have just added a number to the list of losers.

Some people develop Borderline Personality Disorder because of the intensity of their emotions. They can do anything with terrible emotions. They become helpless in deep emptiness or delusion. They then began to believe in the thorny theory. They think that their inner incomprehensible pain can be reduced only by hurting themselves. They go against their own will and do whatever they want. They think of suicide, want to cut off their hand, burn themselves with fire, want to jump on the roof of a big house. Walking incoherently on the road, the horn of the rushing bus does not ring in his ears.

All of these things have something in them. Some people control themselves a little, some may take a long time. One may never be able to cope with the shocks of life. One may think that his life was all wrong in middle age.

In the language of medical science, an explanation of this may be found. They will try to explain human feelings with some chemical terms. Someone will say, the level of serotonin has decreased which is causing hormonal imbalance. Psychiatrists may prescribe medication and therapy. These may work on some people. But, even so, life cannot go on with these explanations. We live in a world where we have thousands of resources. There are so many research papers, articles, books, etc. around us to show us how to become a millionaire by doing business. How to stay in a relationship that will last a long time.

Apart from this, our mentors are still alive, constantly listening to their own experiences. These may be worth a lot but it has not reduced the problem in the world. Honestly, everyone's life is different. The choices are different, the crises are different. When we hear of someone's grief, we tell him an example, rather than the story of a sad person. In this way, one's grief cannot be reduced. Everyone's story is so sensitive that we can hardly understand it.

As a solution to all this, some people say very easily, move on. Time will tell. Some people say, if someone's mood swings, try to understand him. If someone is depressed, keep an eye on them. Those who solve problems so easily, are always happy? They do not have false problems in life? There are hundreds of articles on how to understand a girl's mood swings. The boy who understands the mood of the girl can not have the mood swing? Who will see him? Mid-Life Crisis comes not only to a man but also to a woman. Women's midlife crisis seems even more frightening. But, as much as men value the mind of a woman in her youth, the conventional society doesn't.

Life may not be very complicated. But you can never draw the border with a simple explanation. Maybe life is as simple as water but its color is difficult to understand. The color varies from person to person, society to society. From the outside, we are sometimes outsiders to the person next to us. When two people have no emotion for each other after intense love, they may not know that there is a huge distance that has developed in their world of thinking. Do they ever know that they have set up another world of thought with their thoughts? The world that the people next to them will never find!!!

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May be this is natural and expected. It is programmed like that for human kinds to let go of addiction and affection. That's how individuals start to let go of ego and possession. Not doomed but I think it will wreck havoc for some who don't know how to manage. One way of dealing with the situation is to be in conversation with your inner circle and share.

Well said and I totally agree with you. Inner self is the best option to share the thoughts and find out a path to deal with the situation.
Thank you so much for sharing your idea. It means a lot.

Yep bro, midlife crisis is REAL. 🥲

Yes it is. But we all need to keep moving to get rid of these crisis soon so that we can start our life again.

Thanks for stopping by. :D

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