Whilst I spent the morning surfing and crying, Jamie got on with man grief by doing the back deck. It's taking longer than expected - a LOT of screwing is involved!
It's amazing how much money can be saved by doing it yourself, but the sacrifice is time - a lot of it. It would have been done last week but for Dads departure and everything that needed doing for that. The sweetest thing though is conversation about the deck and garden was the last conversation Jamie had with Dad, though the bitterness is he will never see it. I was struggling with that a lot yesterday - all the things I share with Dad or want to share with him now can't be. People say I can still tell him, or that he is looking down on me, but I am finding that to be bollocks right now and not a support at all.
It will look great though. As it extends from the back of the house there's a real sense you are looking over the garden, if that makes sense. And it's covered up the old slab from a shitty outdoor area that was there when we bought it.
We will need to oil it as well. I'd still like a pergola but that's waaaay down the line.
Well, I better go help him I suppose. I'm knackered from surfing though! My hips seem to be handling it okay, and I'm finding the longboard easier on my hips than surfing the SUP. The other longboard girls were lovely on the water this morning too, talking to me about grief in ocean metaphors - it comes in waves, it can hold you under and so on. Jamie is on his own as he builds the deck so if I was a good wife I'd go out and give the man a hand.
With Love,
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I like ocean metaphors for grief. Shit, I like ocean metaphors for everything.
So sorry about your dad, Riverflows. ❤️
Haha yes ocean metaphors make sense don't they? Symbolically, the ocean is all about emotions so it utterly makes sense!
Oh yes, stormy seas, crests and valleys... and whales.
I like that you used the word utterly.
You like the word utterly?
Yes. I do. And I'm not ashamed to say it. Or mutter it.
Or splutter it
😆 pretty much how I always talk anyway
Allow me to suggest to leave him to his man grief, as you do what you must to work through your own.
Haha sounds good... Well it works for me!
I sanded down and painted my deck this summer... all by myself. That was a whole lot of work. It probably would have been quicker now that I think on it, to build a new one. But it had been years since it was finished and it was in desperate need of some protection if I wanted to keep it.
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad.
Hey well done you! If the wood is still good it's worth it - it takes a lot to replace the wood and screws!
Thankyou. It's painful but that's life. Xx
Most of the wood is pretty good. I have a few board to replace.