We had these people in our lives come only to give us a lesson. They leave scars that forever will be remembered. So the next time we meet a kind of them, we'll get be more aware.
Have you experienced this too? To be taken advantage of because you make yourself always available? You're afraid to say no thinking you might hurt or offend them without minding yourself if you can really take it.
I suddenly remember the experience I had back then when scrolling through my feed on Facebook. I got notified that I have photo memories from 2 years ago with what I called "friends" who think of me the same. I looked happy in those pictures when I still didn't know their true color.
I had these 5 friends in college that I treat as my best friends. We are 2 girls and 3 guys in our circle. The one girl is actually a lesbian so it was like technically I'm the only girl in our team. Let's just call her Dianne in this story, not her real name.
I treat Dianne as my sister even though she acts like a guy. I share my things, clothes, and make-up with her cause I want her to act like a girl who behaves conservatively whenever we have bonding with our guy friends. I know there is no malice when we're with them but I just want her to take care of herself, especially her body. You know we can't control situations mostly when there is alcohol involved.
By the way, she had a girlfriend back then and they were already 3 years in a relationship. The house where her girlfriend lives is nearby my apartment and she often sleeps there but sometimes with me. Yes, I let her stay in my apartment whenever she comes home late from her shift. At first, her girlfriend gets jealous of our closeness but when she proved that I only like guys and I'm 100% straight she trusted us already. There are also times she comes into my apartment to sleep over and bond with us.
I thought everything was cool until one day Dianne shared her problem with her girlfriend. She cried it to us. She told us that she was falling out of love with her and starting to like someone, but didn't tell us who. Our guy friends looked at me at once. They suspected it was me but she quickly said no and add it was very complicated.
Our guy friends get confused and were so puzzled by the issues, thus they decided to get her drunk to convince her and open up about it.
When we were already tipsy and she hadn't told it yet my 2 guy friends bid already cause their house is quite far and they will gonna drive wheels. However, Dianne and our other guy friend that I will call Dave, not also his real name, stayed.
They slept on the floor even though I told Dianne to lie beside me in the bed. She said she will after they finished their drink. I'm so dizzy that night that I didn't know what happened to them.
When I woke up the next day I saw them hugging each other. Dianne was lying on Dave's arm while his hand was on her hips.
I was shocked and get startled by what I've seen. I woke them up and told them what are they doing. They quickly separated and get up. Dave left and went home. I talked to Dianne and ask her what's the meaning of it and she just said it was nothing. She just thought she was with her girlfriend.
Since then I get suspicious of their actions. There are times that they were going out without inviting us 3. Also, Dianne often asks me a favor to lie to her girlfriend if it asks where she is. I tolerate it because she was my friend.
She changed a lot since that night and we really noticed it. One day she gets mad and distanced herself from me when Dave accompanied me to the mall. I feel her annoyance from the way she ignored me. I guess she gets jealous. On the other hand, my 2 guy friends feel the same about Dave. They noticed the sudden reaction on his face whenever Dianne was close to them.
Our friendship gets toxic day by day and turns worst when her girlfriend found her secret. She blamed me for tolerating Dianne that I was a sh*t influence on her.
Actually, I warned Dianne before that she will be in trouble if she don't fix her issues with her girlfriend but she didn't listen and just told me to leave her be for she knows what she's doing, and Dave also. Then she never talked to me again.
I'm still puzzled about where I go wrong and why she just dumped me like that. I can't help but blame myself for changing her. If only I knew it will be like this I won't change her to be a real girl. She was so infatuated with Dave that makes her so decisive without thinking about the consequences.
I heard that they're still together and already living under the same roof. Well good for them if they really are, but I'm out of it for they already cut me in their life. So I am, I don't care. Ehe!
I'm contented with my 2 friends who are very true from the start. Even though they always bully me. Tsk!
A lesson I learned from this experience, mistakes shouldn't be tolerated for it will never result in good. Also if people are true to you, they won't put you at risk.
Don't be like me.
Thanks for reading.
What the hell? Ugh, seriously they are not true friends. If they can easily dispose of you like that, better not talk to them for good. Also, I will not make dirty work for a friend if it will cause a broken relationship.
They put all the blame on me from the action they made. Sabi nila ako talaga nagsumbong dun sa jowa niya tas yung jowa naman niya ako rin sinisi kasi kinunsinti ko 🙃
I felt sad for her girlfriend but in the otherhand I felt happy for her because her senses were awake and at least she now have a feeling to a boy, kung baga naging babae na talaga sya peru sana nagkaroon sya ng proper closure with her girlfriend at sana di na lang nila tinago ni Dave kasi lalabas din naman ang katotohanan.
Lesson learned: Be true to yourself and to others even if its hurt. Its better to hurt someone with the truth than to comfort them with a lie.
Ayun nga e sana tinapos niya muna problema niya sa isa di yung parang pinagsabay niya. Tapos nung nagkaipitan sakin sila lahat galit e kesyo ako daw nagsabi sa jowa niya. Yung jowa naman galit rin sakin kasi kinunsinti ko. Tinanggap ko yung sa jowa niya pero grabe naman pati din siya diba.
Hayaan mo na lang sila. Move on ka na lang din ganyan talaga ang buhay eh.
I was once in such situation with a former friend, just different circumstances but similar accusation. It was bad and we eventually part ways. Those who mean to stay will stay and just like you said, " the people that actually care about you, won't put you at risk".
Yeah. Sometimes being caring and kind too much is not always good. They will get a chance to abuse you. Hays!
It's like in the teleserye or movie. It really happen in reality. Thanks for sharing your friendship story.
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