Never Tell People What You Do: 10 Lessons I Wish Someone Had Taught Me 20 Years Ago

in Lifestyle22 days ago

"Success loves silence." – Jim Rohn

An idea, like a seed, requires time, space, and privacy to grow.

"The idea grows steadily and silently until one day it emerges tall and strong for all to see." – Jim Rohn

Most people fail to recognize the dangers of external influence and the importance of nurturing the right thoughts. They let the uninformed opinions of others derail their growth and dim their potential.

I’ve been lucky to wake up early enough to undo the damage caused by the imposed beliefs of those I once considered my superheroes.


Childhood Superheroes

One of the quickest ways to commit spiritual suicide is by sharing your ideas, plans, and aspirations with people around you—believing they are qualified to rationally evaluate your dreams.

This mistake is catastrophic.

Like many, I grew up seeing my parents as superheroes, programmed to unquestioningly obey their opinions. This backfired spectacularly.

Reciprocity was nonexistent, and their willingness to understand my ideas was absent. Instead, I was dismissed with claims that my dreams were unattainable fantasies. Their advice amounted to little more than empty platitudes:

  • Go to school for half your life.
  • Work for the rest.
  • Die quietly, leaving your dreams unfulfilled.

They weren’t bad people, but they were utterly unequipped to guide me. My father, raised in a socialist regime, saw every ambition as foolish and unattainable. My mother, raised in post-war poverty, believed desiring more out of life was sinful—a coping mechanism for a worldview steeped in scarcity.

What took me decades to realize was that these "superheroes" lacked the courage to strive for greatness themselves. Instead, they settled for guaranteed mediocrity, unable to risk even the possibility of success.


Lessons Learned

Here are the 10 lessons I wish someone had taught me:

1. Keep Your Plans to Yourself
Half of the world can’t conceptualize success. The other half actively hopes you fail.

2. Energy Dissipates When You Reveal Too Much
Your plans lose momentum with every word you share. Silence is fuel.

3. Mediocrity Is Contagious
The average person operates on autopilot. Surround yourself with mediocrity, and it’ll extinguish your fire.

4. Actions > Intentions > Words
Let your results speak louder than your intentions. Recognition will follow, but it shouldn’t be your focus.

5. Most People Don’t Even Believe in Themselves
Don’t expect people who lack self-belief to believe in you.

6. You Will Fail—And That’s Fine
Failure is part of growth. Don’t let the fear of hearing “I told you so” keep you from trying.

7. Avoid Layman Opinions
Don’t ask unqualified people for advice. Seek experts, emulate them, then push their limits by 10%.

8. Be Your Own Support System
Enthusiasm and support from others are rare. Become your own champion.

9. Age Doesn’t Equal Wisdom
Just because someone is older doesn’t mean they’ve figured it out. Put God first, and your instincts second.

10. A Quiet, Disciplined Mind Is the Breeding Ground for Ideas
Silence isn’t just golden; it’s the cradle of innovation.


Final Thoughts

Sometimes, when people see you still burning with ambition despite the obstacles, it enrages them. Why? Because your potential highlights their mediocrity.

So protect your dreams. Let them grow in silence. And when they finally emerge, let your success speak for itself.

(This unrelated picture is courtesy of Pixabay.) 👇🏻

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