The Power Of Proper Apology And Forgiveness

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Forgiveness is a powerful medicine having the ability to restore peace and love but it rarely finds its way where apology is absent.

It takes maturity and understanding to practice forgiveness and apology. The human heart is extremely proud. We want to be treated like kings, we want people to regard us as something but we are not ready to do likewise.

This is the reason why people find it difficult to practice forgiveness and apology. You hear people say things like "Why should I forgive, didn't you see what he did? Why must I apologize? I am the man/woman here, I can't bring myself that low."

Pride is one of the reasons why our world is the way it is today. The issues of divorce, broken relationships, malice, war, and disputes are on the increase daily because people refuse to humble themselves.

Truly it's not easy to forgive, I mean we have feelings, we go through a lot, and it hurts badly for someone to infringe on your rights and then just use a few words and you just let go. It sounds unfair, sometimes you feel tempted to do the same thing to the person so that he or she might know what you felt but you see that's not the way of understanding.

In life, I believe we grow each day, maturity and understanding have nothing to do with age and status. If you are privileged to have those beautiful gifts, let others learn from you. A person who forgives and the one who apologizes is not weak but wise.

We are all humans, whether you like it or not you will also offend others, if you don't forgive those who wrong you, how do you expect to get forgiveness out of those whom you offend? If we are careful enough to pay attention to things like things, we will walk this earth with humility, carrying apologies and forgiveness everywhere we go and dispensing it as supposed.

Don't assume everyone out there knows the right thing to do, some might know it, and still do the opposite but what's your business? Let your life preach humility through forgiveness and apology.

Both forgiveness and apologies are powerful, they are part of love. If you claim you are led by love and you don't know how to forgive or apologize, then your love is hypocritical.

One funny thing most people don't like about both apology and forgiveness is the fact that one doesn't need to apologize for you to forgive and you don't need to be wrong before you apologize.

It sounds crazy but that's it. You might say, that will lower my class, yes, it will, and for your information, it just reveals that you are still proud. Do you know when you forgive or apologize without a reason to do so, you heap coals of fire on the heart of your offenders?

Even if the person tries to act tough in your presence, trust me a solid message has been delivered to his or her heart. What is life that we are even so boastful about? We live today and tomorrow we are no more.

Why hold the person in your heart and restrain yourself from having peace? Why withhold that apology and remain in the bondage of guilt and regrets? These things don't cost anything to execute. I'll be honest with anyone if you still find it hard to either forgive or apologize, you are proud and it's not good for you.

Today, the lack of peace we are facing in the world is not for anything but for the fact that some individuals refuse to forgive and some refuse to apologize. A minor thing that could be resolved with a few words has resulted in something huge claiming thousands and millions of innocent lives.

No matter how bad a situation might be, a proper and decent apology can turn it around. I don't blame some people for not forgiving, the truth is some offenders are too full of themselves. You will see pride vaunting itself in their apologies.

You offended someone, you hurt someone's feelings, and instead of humbling yourself and trying to appease it, you are still trying to defend yourself and force forgiveness out of the person. I bet you, that if the person is not mature enough, you may never get that forgiveness.

And even those offended, I know you are hurt but don't keep acting tough, it's not also easy for one to apologize, you should know it took them so much to do, so have compassion. Whether you postpone it or not, you've been hurt already so, what's the difference?

Forgiveness and even apology is a choice, you may choose not to render it and no one will question you but it has consequences that sometimes might take a lifetime to correct.

No condition is bad beyond repairs, as long as the problem you have is with your fellow man, it can be resolved, all you need to do is involve forgiveness or apology (whichever is needed at the time). This is the way to live peacefully in this world. It might even give you a long life because you will have nothing to worry about.

Forgiveness and apologies don't just heal the offended, both of you will be healed. Your peace would be restored.

If only all of us would begin to take these things seriously, our relationship with those around us and our loved ones would have grown. Many homes that are lying in ruins today would have been okay.

But it's not too late, one thing I love with forgiveness and apologies is that they don't expire. Though the longer you withhold it, the more injurious it becomes but peradventure, you kept it for a long time for some reason. Today you can execute it and keep it going with patience and I am sure, it will be fruitful. Don't keep yourself caged in unforgiveness and lack of apology.

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