Don't lose yourself trying to fix the heart you did not break

in The City of Neoxian18 hours ago

Love is beautiful when you are with the right person, it is only when you experience true love you will realize how badly you have been treated in your past relationships.


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Relationships in Nigeria are very stressful and tiring, the pool is messed up because we have more gamers than people with good intentions.

Someone gets played and is heartbroken and he/she feels the best way to live is to also break others' hearts, we have so many people in a relationship who have not healed from their last relationship.

My first advice is to not lose yourself trying to fix the heart you did not break If you notice you are with someone who is not invested in the relationship, don't be the only one trying to make things work because, in the end, they will leave you broken too.

You can't fix someone who does not want to be fixed, and the signs are always there, just that most time we tend to ignore them because we want to be the understanding or loving one.

A guy I know broke up with his girlfriend today and the reason is that it was a no-sex relationship, Sex before marriage is not right but that is not common in my country anymore because some girls use this as a way to fool guys, they will have like 5 guys they are dating and lie to some of them that they are still a virgin and do not want sex but they are giving the one they love the sex. Meanwhile, they are collecting money from the other guys they aren't having sex with and the moment guys get to know this, no one wants to be the fool anymore.


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Back to the story of the guy, One day when she was searching the girl's browser history, he saw a lot of porn links which means the girl watches porn a lot. However, she still does not want a sexual relationship with him. Still, he is always spending on her, what if he was being played again just like his ex did because he already dated a girl like that who also claimed to be a virgin, and after 2 years when they finally had sex, she turned out to not be a virgin...

Once bitten, twice shy, he sent a breakup message to the new girl after 8 months and she just read the message and left it un replied, this is another level of pain because it kind of means she was just using him, and since he has figured it out, nothing to say...If she had invested in the relationship, she would have tried her best to make it work.

My second piece of advice is To reciprocate the energy by people if they choose to act nonchalant with you, do the same, and don't put up with bad energy in the name of love... There is the right person for everyone, we just need to find them or wait for them to see us.

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Fed up finding! Nothing to do but waiting.😂

lol no worries man, focus on yourself now, the right woman will find you at the right time!

I think I’m going to take the second one serious. I used to say “oh life is short and I have always love my friends blah blah but recently!!! Oh myyy I realized people will just use you anyhow for their gains and leave you. For the sake of your mental health, just reciprocate energy.

nice people only get used, i used to be like that before too until i realized i only attracted more users and entitled people into my life

Just tittle is got to me... What a time reading.🤜🏻🤛🏻

I agree with you. I think many of us make useless efforts to fix a broken heart and they forget about their self-respect and do many lame things even if they didn't make any mistake. If there is no approach from the other side it's impossible to fix such a thing. It's better to move on.

That guy is a lover boy ooh😅😅
For this Lagos??😅