CRACKS IN THE WALL: HOW LACK OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION CAUSES MISTRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS

Trust is one of the most important qualities that strengthen relationships. Without trust, it is virtually impossible to build a relationship or even keep a marriage. Over the years, I've realized that lack of communication is the key factor that causes mistrust among couples and often leads to failed marriages and broken relationships.

In any relationship where there is lack of proper communication, intentions will be misinterpreted and feelings will be left unexpressed. What this portends is that important discussions that should address the root cause of conflicts will be avoided.

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As individuals, we are unique and possess various individual differences. This calls for a dire need to interact and share thoughts and feelings with one's partner so as to understand each other better. Sadly, many people fail to express themselves the right way and this causes constant conflicts. Such couples begin to hold grudges and over time, they slowly drift apart. Soon, they start seeking solace and comfort with other people instead of the person they claim to love. By the time they realize what is happening, the damage has already been done.

For instance, if a lady sees a name saved on her fiance's contact list with a love emoji, the appropriate reaction is to ask him in a mature manner. Instead of doing this, some begin to nurse bitter thoughts and this creates a rift between them and the partner who may be in the dark concerning the reason for the change in attitude. There is a probability that the man may or may not be cheating, nevertheless, silent grudges is not the best solution in such circumstances.

The above could happen to men too. There have been several instances when I concluded wrongly about one thing or the other and it affected my friendship with people. These experiences made me decide to always ask questions and make my intentions and feelings known whenever I'm dealing with people. Instead of assuming they understood, I should make it clear to them. I have also learnt that I ought to keep my emotions in check while trying to communicate my feelings to others. Truly, this is not an easy task but we can save many relationships if we are willing to do this.

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With proper communication among couples, we can know the strengths, weaknesses and preferences of our partners. Knowing these things helps us to understand the reasons behind their words and actions. Since no one is perfect, it is when we know these things that we can be able to manage our relationships and resolve issues better.

Do you agree that lack of effective communication is the chief cause of mistrust in relationships and marriages. Let me know your view in the comment box. Thank you.