In a world full of indisciplined children, where people see you as being wicked. When you discipline a child. Where there is a modernized name for a rude child, the same sweet name for bullies.
It is best to apply both corporal punishment and words of mouth. At the rate at which the Gen Z generations are going wild and woke, if parents continue with this style of I will just talk to him or her pattern, it won't work at all.
We will have serious problems at hand. Imagine when a sixteen-year-old child will leave the house and start living alone and sending money home. During my childhood, you couldn't stay out of the house when it was 6pm.
Who are you looking for outside? I don't have a child of my own for now. But you see my little nieces and nephews. They do call me "anty iron lady" but they always want to see that same aunty more than the ones that pet them.
I remember when my sister-in-law brought a maid home, my niece usually removed her plate after eating; she stopped doing that because she saw someone who does it now. She turns around to insult the girl at every little thing.
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Her mother will just shout and still ask the girl to do it. Well, on this fateful day, I was around, and she tried to repeat that same attitude. I immediately asked her to take the plate to the kitchen, but she refused and started reporting to her mother.
She was about to talk to me to let the girl clear the plate when she saw I was glaring at her. She now says obey your aunty. She stubbornly refused; I just picked up the cane, I whipped her, and she went straight to the kitchen to drop the plate; I told her to wash all the plates in the sink.
Which she did amidst tears, when she was done, I let her cry very well before I called her and started talking to her, I made her understand that I love her and want the best for her. That's why I spank her and if she is always removing her plate after eating and washing them.
I Will never flog her again, she should try it and see. Till date, anything I ask her to do, she no longer complains or refuses. Now, I use both the corporal way and word of mouth.
Some corporal ways I don't like is punishing a child like a criminal or a thief. Especially the olden day's pattern of wicked punishment. Putting grinded pepper in a child's genital area or tying the child-like fish and keeping him in the sun after flogging.
Please, these are punishments for criminals. Starving and unnecessary knocks on the head, some children develop health issues because of severe punishment while growing up, all in the name of discipline.
There are simple punishments for children, such as kneeling them down, asking them to pick a pin for some minutes, make them do more house chores. Don't forget to let them know the reason for the punishment you are giving to them.
Don't forget to use the corporal and word of mouth to train your child. Don't use only words of mouth always.
Thank you all for taking the time to read
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Trust me, that’s an obedient kid. Not a kids will listen to you after being beaten. Speaking from experience, that could have even worsen the case for some kids. Anyway, I’m glad it worked for your niece. Maybe it’s all about finding what works.
It has always worked because we start from small not when he or she is a teenager