You've learnt quite some good lessons and thanks for sharing. I agree with you that in today's media space if you don't show up you're easily forgotten and this because that's where majority of people now engage and spent most of their time. I'm happy that you have real friends who would check up on you, life is good when you have those who really care about you. Growth takes time and effort, we can all become the best version of ourselves with time. Again it's ok to ask for help when we need it but the real issue is people don't ask for help because nowadays when tell people about your predicaments, the next day they will be out there, something that could be your private or perosnal issue is out there. But this should not hinder us from asking for help when we need. I would say we should ask for the right help from the right people.