Nutbaggery cascading from the top sucks, moreso when you can't cheerfully hack around it (not that I would ever do anything like that).
Your friend has a great sounding board. Sometimes people just need that little bit of a push/confidence boost to proceed with a decision they've already thought through and made :)
Nice composition with the photo :)
Yes...I mostly listened to be honest. Prompted her to talk more. She ended up going in circles and coming back to the decision she'd already made. She said to me, G-dog, you're so good at working things out. I actually did nothing, just kept sort of saying, hmm, and what are you going to do? And also, hmm, what are your options? Not so directly of course. Worked out well and I got a free coffee. Lol.
Grazie mille. Total fluke!
I feel like you're actually doing it instinctively but you're not quite sure/aware of what you're doing so when it works that well it seems like a fluke XP
I see we have a similar way of troubleshooting XD though how you deal with the people that want you to tell them "the" answer? x_x
I trap them in a time-space continuum of what are your options and what are you going to do. The reason is that I don't ever want to be seen to make a decision for them. I'm not one to catch people's problems, rather, *reflect them back, and make them take ownership. The reason is that if they don't come to their own decisions they have the ability to blame someone other than themselves for the failure of those decisions.
Instinctive happenstance. Yep, that's it. :)
Listening is key. Asking questions is another key. You redirected her back to herself, that is most helpful, since she is the only one who knows what's best for her. She just had to look inside to see it.
Best way for it...Means people have to take ownership. I'm all for that.
Seconding taking ownership, another line in my code book. Did you gain secret access to it? You seem to be familiar with it already.
The tome of wisdom? Yeah, totally stole it!
Um, no. It's my personal code that I've created. If you think I stole that, you need to check your soul age.
No...I stole it...Or at least a few stray pages that slipped out.