[ESP] [ENG] Diferencias entre los padres de antes y los padres de ahora / Differences between parents of before and parents of today

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I remember when I was 6 years old and I was doing something that my mother did not approve of and then she looked at me with that look that crossed my body and it penetrated me to the bone and I without being sure that I was doing wrong, I just stopped doing whatever I was doing because I already knew that if it was not like that, the punishment was already sentenced. That's the way things were and I know that many will feel identified with these things, the parents of before generally punished according to their criteria regardless of the child's point of view since talking and responding to the parents was the reason for a worse punishment, we only had to shut up and endure, some of us learned to handle ourselves in that environment and rarely were punished, those were different times and people had more children than now, today two is a large number.

I have witnessed mothers who nowadays say "I can't handle this child, he will drive me crazy" and those children grow up having bad behavior and I remember that even with the severity of the parents from before, at least in my circle of childhood friend, we are all professionals and we have families and none of us came out thief or crazy.

I remember that my father never hit me but he was an authority figure and he still is, if he asked me for something I did it quickly and I have seen today's parents that children say they do not want to do what they are told and there the conflict begins and it becomes a real chaos for them and everybody around.

Of course, being parents is not studied and all parents are the ones that each child in particular needs, we can think that there are good and bad parents but in reality they are all good because thanks to them we are here and a friend once told me that parent are never wrong, because each behavior that they have "good or bad" leaves us a lesson and helps us to forge our character.

It is important to listen and talk with our children, of course always taking the place of the parents, because as a psychologist friend told me "parents who become friends of their children leave them orphans" before, parents generally listened very little to their children, they paid more attention to the word of a neighbor than to the word of the child, thank God my mother always believed me, and that is why I did not lie to her, because it was not necessary, on the other hand, to those repressive parents of some of my friends always they told them lies about almost everything.

Love is the main thing to be the guides of our children and teach them values in this decomposed world, to tell them that if they see someone older in public transport they should give them a seat, that if they see that another child in the park falls they must not take out theirs cell phone and record it, what they must do is help him or she to get up, tell them that older people should be respected and thus all those things that will make them progress in life, sometimes I feel sad when I see those young people now a day, more aware of social networks than of the friends who are next to them.

Let us take care to do well as parents so that our children could do better than us, just as we do better than our parents.