Push, punish, pursuance come to mind, words in a jiffy. Problem is writing not inciting, keep family out of it, relate but never become all inclusive.

Principles passed down by parents still stick, never discuss politics, religion and family in a workplace (we do tend to break last rule every so often), always remember never do harm.

Actually in writing one has to frame into a story as second person never too close. Oh plenty thoughts hit the brain, when writing many escape.... never to be found again!