I really do wish the circumstances that led to people choosing violence would be addressed. Instead we try to address the violence itself, not the reason why people choose it.

They are trapped by circumstance, and while the violence is inexcusable, the cause for that violence is something else - and often - that something else needs to be fixed before the cycle of violence and trauma can be vanquished.

It makes me upset too.

So did your words. Especially:

I remember visiting an aunt of mine several years back in her beautiful house with the beautiful paints and the beautiful sights. But almost on every wall were ugly splotches of brown, and I playfully told her that she may need to repaint her walls soon enough and perhaps, stop having hot cocoa fights with her husband. Then a smile so bitter, it didn’t reach her eyes, swept her face. And she said it was her blood.

This is such moving writing. It could open a book. It could be the start of a really long piece of investigative journalism looking at domestic violence in different parts of the world.

it isn't always blood and pus, sometimes it is financial, emotional, mental, and other sorts of abuse, but it is all blood curdling and unacceptable.

But always, the most unacceptable thing, is a society that gives people the notion that there is no other option but to lash out or to control the fate of another.