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Have you ever gained or lost something
Or someone because of a habit (good or bad) of yours? no fictional writing, this must be a true story. Remember to use your photo.
Habit good or bad has an impact on us, most times When a good habit brings us some unpleasant results we wish we had exhibited the bad one, there is a saying that " bad things happen to good people" How true is that?
A day after my birthday in 2022, my cousin linked me up with a male friend of hers and was preaching all sorts of sweet things to me about the guy, then she exchanged our numbers and he chatted me up, at first we were cool we talked often "they said love at the talking stage is always merry" then we created time to go out, went to see a movie " the woman king" we got to know each other more. All of a sudden this guy went mute, we weren't communicating like before, fine he made it clear to me that he doesn't like calls I respected that not call him often, then even chatting was kinda of a problem, he replied my messages anytime he liked, seeing these red flags I just decided within myself I'd let him be, besides I can't force a man to stay.
Some months later he chatted me up again and apologized about his attitude of recent, we were now cool for a few weeks then he popped the question, and asked me to be his girlfriend, I don't judge people on their first mistakes, since I was also single I decided to give it a try and see where it leads me, we talked often on like before but then this long-distance thing after our first date we haven't seen, we base in the same city but we don't see each other over a year when I called him to complain about us not seeing, he'd say because he doesn't have enough money to take me to these fancy places that he has a project his throwing all his money on.
Over a year and some months, I haven't seen this guy except on a video call, also when he has personal issues he won't share them with me, he will go mute for weeks when I confront him, and he will say when he is going through stuff he doesn't talk to people and I asked people including me he said yes, I was pissed and shock at the same time, I conversed with him I was longer interested in the relationship, it's not like we live in different states inside the same city we don't see each other. I don't write people off easily, I know I have my bad habits as well so I tried my best to make the relationship work, but I noticed he wasn't putting in the same amount of effort as I did. This time I ended everything despite the hurt I was gonna feel " A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage" so I had to let him go.
Note: nobody is bad to the core he possesses some good traits as well, but I don't think I can cope with his attitude when situations arise, and not speaking to me when he's going through stuff, I understand relationship isn't situational.
thanks for reading 🌹
I think most of the cases when someone go to a relationship with the reference of others is not actually the true one. I feel it's kind of forcefully relationship. You were single and that doesn't mean you need to accept anyone's proposal for mingle. You are human not a product.
Whatever it's my prespective and your prespective can be different also. Moreover culture of a country may create differences between our prespective.
Yeah, you're very correct, but I liked him small sha, I'm gonna be saying these words to myself every day, I'm a human I'm not a product 💪💪.
Thank you so much I've learned something impactful this morning.
Humm, you're human not a product. That's deep, true though. A shoe that sizes one might be tight for another, so you have to know the person and see if you guys are contactable before accepting to go into a relationship to avoid stories that touches the heart.
Noted boss
I think he wasn't really ready for a relationship, it's brave of you to walk away when you did knowing you’ll feel hurt, I hope you meet someone who respects and cherishes you
Yeah I pray I do
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I'm confused, this topic was about a habit of your own, not someone else.
Ooh sorry about that, I didn't get the instructions well
There is a saying that A lovers house is never far. Whoever or whatever one likes, no matter how busy one is or no matter the challenges one can face to get close, love will always fine its way around it. I can say from past experience that he likes you but just as a friend, he might not really know that, but that's what it is.
I think I've heard this saying before, they always find their way together
No matter what, love will find its way. We only give excuses for the things we really ain't into. I for one, I can't remember all the things i have don't to be with the one i loved before we eventually broke up, but to be sincere it was worth it, no regrets. I was only saying that we will always find time out of our tight schedules
I don’t think you did anything wrong so I don’t understand what your habit was
Omoh I'm just going through the question again tho.
It's best to be with who you can easily cope with. We all have our bad sides so, being with the person you can tolerate is better.
Yeah you're very correct 🤝