Looking back, something I needed from my parents but didn't get would be a complete family. Family means father and mother I love you which is pretty cool right if you didn't know this acronym. Anyways my family was missing the father hence the title of the post "Amily". No, this doesn't mean that my father died or anything. It just means that my parents were divorced mainly because my mom chose to go to America for a better life and future for me and my younger brother. Unfortunately, my dad decided to stay in Malaysia and due to the long distance and separation they later on got divorced.
So how did this affect me? Well, I grew up without a dad most of the time. I say most of the time because I did visit Malaysia during summer holidays and stayed with my dad during that time. Even though, there was some time with my dad, I still feel like I was a lacking a male role model in my life. I do stay with him now though in Malaysia! In addition to that, the family just wasn't complete without a mom and dad together. I guess I should just appreciate that they were both alive since there are some people that were born orphans or lost their parents at a young age.
Anyways the past is the past. They are both remarried now and happy and I'm happy for them. One thing I have taken from this experience is that that I would do my best to not end up divorcing my future wife if I had one because it would really affect the children and I wouldn't want any of my kids to go through what I went through.
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Who's that handsome guy? I am sure he will be my best friend Shawn 🧡.
By the way, congrats on a memorable life with parents. Life without parents always be tough. You have already passed through such situations. Though it is late, but now everything is fine, and I am also happy to see you happy. May this happiness continue forever and forever.
o.o bro this is old picture haha. I'm the one with jacket
Thank you man! I hope you are happy too
I can identify you among them. Yes, I always try to be happy even in tough situations.
This is the philosophy of my life. Why should we be sad about the things which we can control and why is there a need to be sad about things which are beyond our control. This is the Mantra of my life that's why I always try to be happy 😊.
oh ok xD i thought you didnt know.
That's good. Whales need to be happy :p
Ha ha ha 😂 🤣 whale again 🤣
Hello, nobody said it would be easy. Sometimes parents make difficult decisions in life to try to provide better for their children... then those unexpected turns happen, things that are not as we expect them to be. We will have to see when you get to those moments of deciding important things, what will you do? We don't know that. No one can.
I tell you this because here in my country I see how families break up because of economic situations.
I'm sorry you had such a situation. Think that there are people who have parents who stay together, don't divorce but have toxic relationships that affect their children's psychology.
There is everything in this world, @shawnnft.
ya I know it's not easy.
I don't know about this one. My dad choosing to stay in Malaysia was questionable; I wouldn't consider this trying to provide better for me or my brother.
I can't predict the future but I would do my best to make things work out. If it's out of my control then so be it.
Yes I feel this is equally as bad as not having a family or having divorced parents. Nothing can be done about that. Can only do what we can do right. Only we can mitigate the issue by not doing the same but what others do we cant do much about it
Behind a decision there is a why. I guess. But it's in the past. It's complicated. I understand your point of view.
Look, let me share a bit about my experience. My mom had a job in Havana, but she had to travel 60km every day. To follow my dad, she moved to a village where, through my dad's job, they were given the chance to have an apartment.
That job my mom had and left would have given her international trips and possibly, over time, a place to live in Havana, like all her colleagues have today. She chose to go with my dad. Maybe if she hadn't gone with him, they would have gotten a divorce.
When I look back, I think that maybe today they would have better living conditions and not blackouts all day like they’re having now. Maybe we wouldn’t even be living in this country, where the situation is awful. Well… I also think we can’t really know what reality we would have had because we didn’t live it.
I can't blame them for what they did; I have to take care of myself. That's what I believe.
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hmm it's hard to say. so you could have better living conditions but a divorced family maybe?
I don't know I feel like living conditions that can be improved. There are people that start of homeless in life but they get through it all and have a good life after. I feel the family thing is a bit hard to repair once you divorce. That's something more permanent where as living condition I think is more temporary as you can work to change that.
Ya you can't blame them. I don't blame mine either. It's their life but I would just saying how it affected my life haha.
I do think kids from separate parents know the value of making a marriage work than from those who don't go through that experience.
ooo are your parents separated too? I think so too but you never know. I think it also did make me antisocial as well
yeah , i think it can affect you in many ways.
o.o what abotu u any story ?
yeah man, maybe i will make a post about it :D
:D do it lets see it
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