It's great you've conquered your perfectionist drives. I have also diminished them but I feel it remains work to do here - treating perfectionism with perfect actions hahaha. I admit perfection doesn't exist but I still have moments when I don't feel good if I am not picky with things. I will continuously improve as well 😁
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It's a difficult thing to eliminate - I used a psychologist that specialised in this area, my employer paid for it and I have to say my business thrived once I let go of that perfectionist-ethos. I felt I was free, unfettered.
Don't mistake my loss of perfectionism for me accepting poor performance though, that is not the case. The drive towards my personal best, continual improvement, is relentless. The difference is I don't beat myself up over not attaining perfection as I never seek it. I still get disheartened when I don't perform at my peak, or achieve a personal best result, but it's easier to deal with, reset and push forward with the intel I gathered through the "failure.' You know?
It seems you're on the right track and I feel I am also. So it's all positive.
That's great you approached a psychologist through your job. It can be a great help at times. I am very aware of their practice because I am one of them haha Funny, right? 😁 Anyway, I am more on the research part of things. I also feel I am on the right track but as any human being sometimes you struggle a bit and you have to continuously work with yourself.
I know the feeling of being disheartened when you don't perform at your peak. I was that kid that performed well on all the exams in school, faculty and so on and it did happen sometimes to not achieve a good result and it was quite surprising and demoralizing for me. But yes, the idea of performing better next time, learning from it and the understanding that it is fine you didn't score high that time is a good starting point in my opinion. And yes, let's enjoy the positive part and not demanding perfection from us and others. Cheers for it! 🙂
And a quote on the topic that inspires me:
You probably have me all worked out huh? Probably not though, I'm a conundrum. 😁
That's a good quote from a pretty good movie. It's so true in a world where people attach their feeling of self-worth on material things. Thanks for sharing it.
You do like being a conundrum, huh? 🙂 I didn't figure it out and I keep coming every weekend to investigate you 😅
Yes, I also like the quote which is relevant indeed for our world today. It crossed my path while writing to you.
One should never be too predicable I think. Not only does it allow people to take advantage, it also doesn't help growth and development. Being set in ones ways leads to comfort and comfort leads to acceptance and possibly failure to push forward. I'm more of a continuous improvement kind of man and so I'd say I'm not predictable...Ever-changing is probably a better term.