Tough times for Faith for sure, the brain can't help take some of the Mother's situation and project it onto her own, subconsciously adding to the fear. Support is good, and any little subconscious opportunities to keep her Mum's and her situations separate and different. Thinking it and knowing it logically just isn't enough, we've got to "trick" the subconscious into accepting it.
Good to understand, accept and support whatever decision she makes. The surgery and post-surgery would certainly be rough should she decide to take that risk, could be a long and painful recovery with unknown outcome or much guarantee of improvement. Some folks just get tired of dealing with it, and may prefer to take the known route of gradual pain increase until they are just done and ready to move on to the next life. Having watched my father go through it at a young age, that would be my choice.
Best wishes to all my friend. The end is just the beginning.
K
Yep, exactly, the known route provides certainty and eliminates a lot of the what if thoughts a person can have. She had a lot of complications with the chemo last time which almost killed her so she has that in mind also I guess. No guarantee of improvement also plays on the mind I think as you say. It's a tough decision all around and one I hope I never have to make for myself.