The Truth Hurts: Confronting a Cheating Partner.

Sometimes I feel like I should turn off my emotions just like the characters in the movie 'vampire dairy' did. This feeling of being able to ignore my emotions and act without being influenced by them is comforting.

I know that in reality, I can't do this, but it's nice to pretend that I can. Even if it's only for a few moments.

Being cheated on by one's partner isn't a nice experience, trust gets broken, and a lot of things change.

I don't want to let my emotions take control of my life and actions. Even if it's hard, I'm trying to stay strong and focus on the future. I know I'll be able to move on and find happiness again.


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Whenever I hear about topics such as one being cheated on, I feel different emotions, including anger, hurt, sadness, disappointment, and confusion all at once. I feel like I can't trust anyone and I don't know what to do. I'm left feeling helpless and alone.

I do feel alone, even though there is this saying that there is nothing new on the surface of the earth.



I lay before you life and death but choose life that you may live.

The ball is in your court.

A wise person will deny the present pleasure for the pleasant future while a fool will choose the present pleasure against the pleasant or better future.

Your decision is either based on fear or base on faith. Sure the latter is rewarding.

You own your life

You own your decision

Your decision today determines your destiny tomorrow

Choose well 🤔



A psychologist said these words to me. Deep down, I know that the decision is ultimately mine but I feel stuck, not sure why.

I'm afraid of making the wrong choice and regretting it later. I know I need to take a step back and think through my options carefully. I need to trust my intuition and make a decision that is in line with my values and goals.

That brings me to the topic asked in the weekend experience community.

Your partner cheated on you and you found out and you decide to confront your partner. How do you handle it?

In such a case, I will be extremely angry and hurt, as you can imagine.

As much as I know that I have to try to stay calm and express my feelings to my partner clearly and respectfully, it still would be a very difficult task at that moment.

I will likely need some time to process the situation and to determine how I want to approach the conversation. Also, I know it is important to listen to my partner and to try to understand their side of the story before making a decision.

However, the question is,

Does any explanation justify a partner who cheated?

No matter the explanation, cheating is a violation of trust and can be incredibly damaging to the relationship. It can also cause a great deal of emotional pain and confusion, and it can be difficult to recover from.

Because I'm committed to him, I can't cheat on him, so why did he sleep around with people? Why did he cheat on me and disrespect our relationship?

He should have thought about the consequences before making the decision.

I can't let this go without addressing it and I need to figure out if our relationship can move forward. I need to find out if he's willing to work with me to rebuild trust and make sure this doesn't happen again.

He needs to understand that what he did was wrong and that he needs to take responsibility for his actions. He should also be willing to apologize and take steps to repair the damage he has done.

In addition to that, I need to hear his commitment to change to enable us to move forward. I need to trust that he will make the necessary changes to ensure this doesn't happen again. If he is unable to make this commitment, then there is no point in continuing this relationship.

Can you find forgiveness for such betrayal?

I would forgive him so I can free him from my heart for my own mental wellbeing. I need to know that I can trust him again. If he is not willing to work on rebuilding that trust, then I don't believe this relationship can continue.

I'm struggling to make sense of what has happened and want to make sure I'm making a decision that is right for me, also I need to be sure that I'm making a decision that will bring me peace and happiness.

It's so hard to trust someone again after they have betrayed you.

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A broken glass can be put into pieces together but still it is broken. Trust is most likely the same with it, once broken it can't never put back to the original one.

Exactly how I feel too.

The most unpleasant thing about forgiving an infidelity is that sooner or later that person will do it to you again, so in this case it is best to forgive and let go, life goes on and no one has died to start again 😊

It's just sad, a very sad and painful situation.