Hello, fellow weekenders! Having a nice weekend already? Hope so!
@galenkp came with great topics for the weekend, and this is my response to one of them...
Children getting paid for helping at home???
I mean, should they gain money for helping in the house? I don't think so. They should be disciplined and help at home because that way, they will become self-sufficient. They will know what future will provide them. If you grow up getting money for being a helpful person in your own house, what will happen if there's no money one day. Will you let the house fall to pieces?
Part of my childhood was being able to help at home. My parents separated when I was 5 years old, and growing up with a single mom was not easy, but not so bad either. When I got more conscious of the help needed at home, I knew I had to do my part. I am the eldest, so in that moment of my childhood, while my mom was working, I had to do the house shores. Doing the dishes, sweeping the floor, I even learned own to cook.
I never got money for doing those things. If I go back to those years, my reward was sitting on a chair, and watch Buffy The Vampire Slayer 😄.
I used to help my sisters with their homework, and I was very disciplined at school, so I always got good grades. I remember I used to tell my sisters to go to my aunt's so I could clean peacefully. While the stereo speakers played La Oreja de Van Gogh, I swept and mopped the floor. I sang out loud and had everything clean for when my mom came home.
Never got paid. Never needed to be paid for helping in my house. That experience made me self-sufficient. I learned how to do the laundry, I learned how to cook and so many things.
Be nice, be kind, and have a good day!
You don't think it can assist them in learning how to apply effort for the rewards they get in a world that seems intent on promoting an expectation ethos? You don't think it can assist kids to begin to understand how money works, how to earn it, save and spend it?
I agree, discipline is important, but discipline also applies to financial matters, in saving for the future, understanding when to spend and when to save, and also with the discipline required to not simply get something on credit just because one wants that thing. I think a child being paid for their effort in certain things around the house is a good thing and one of the most valuable lessons they can learn from a financial perspective at a young age.
But you don't have to agree...that's just my thought on the matter.
I get you. But also, in this time, if you tell a kid that you're going to paid him for certain shores at home, he might take advantage of that. He might refuse to do it if there's no money to take. In this country, that wouldn't work. I've seen many kids that doesn't help at home, even if they don't get paid.
But that's just my opinion based in my experience. As you said, we don't have to agree.
Greetings!
He might also do an amazing job and learn something...and a kid looking to take advantage by doing more to earn more would seem to be like a kid who had an entrepreneurial tendency and that's not a bad thing. I always reward effort and lack of effort is never rewarded. I have no children, I mean in my work place where lack of effort results in getting fired and no income.
If that's what he learns and carries that forward into adulthood he deserves to starve to death on the street in my opinion. There's no handouts, it's reward for effort in my opinion.
I'm not saying they shouldn't help if they don't get paid, I'm saying that to offer them some understanding around how working and reward works along with financial responsibility offers them some valuable insight into what will be required later in life.
It would work depending on the circumstances and the economy at home. Maybe I'm pessimist about this, because of what I've seen.
I don't have children either, but I have nieces, and they lived with me for a while. Asking for their help on doing house shores was always difficult. I knew they could do it, but they didn't like it.
This is a good topic to discuss.
I so agree, we should teach to the children that there's no money involved when it comes to doing a house chores especially if it's your own home. And that, it is our duty to give help when it comes to that. And, I experienced giving cash to my brother whenever I have to asked to do this and that, and seriously, in the end, you'll just get a headache later if this become a hobby later.
I mean, imagine if I give money to my imaginary children for doing house shores, the day there's no mony on the table, how can we be sure that they will do it for free? They might do it, but I also know there could be arguments and they might get upset. Or maybe they could do it without arguments, but that's rarely the case.