Believe me, even if it may not seem like it, I am a very self-conscious person with my physical appearance, I really don't know how this happened but since I was little I received a lot of criticism and mockery and I grew up with this, however, there was a stage in which I thought I had overcome all this but the relationships I had came to accentuate those complexes and insecurities, there are people who simply knew how to make me feel like shit, I say this now with full confidence that I should not care about the opinion of those people, currently I have read a little about the subject of dysmorphia and I think it is really painful when the mind makes you see things that are not necessarily like that, just a few days ago I had one of those deep and uncomfortable but necessary conversations with one of my closest friends, the subject came up because he doubts that I have complexes with my appearance because I usually upload selfies, to which I with all the seriousness that deserves I answered that I do that as a way to try to overcome those complexes, because generally when I see one of my photos I only see the things that I do not like about myself and I would like to learn to focus on what I do like.
That being said, I must say that one of the things I didn't like about my physique before were my hands. My fingers are very long and this made me feel insecure because sometimes I had longer hands than people taller than me. I felt really bad when I saw that even a few of my male classmates had bigger hands than me, but as an adult I learned to really appreciate other people's hands. In fact, I think the first thing I see in a person that catches my attention are their hands, but the most ironic thing about all this is that as an adult I began to receive many compliments about my hands and my long fingers.
Lately I have turned what was once a weakness into one of my best attributes, without even doing it consciously I began to like my hands, therefore without realizing it I show them in almost all of my photos, it is perhaps the liking I have for hands in general what makes me make poses with my hands, but even so, I like mine, I know I am not the most careful person with them, I know I should apply lotions to take care of them but I am a little careless, although many women flatter me for having long natural nails, what I really like is the length of my fingers, I still can't believe that before I didn't like them at all and I felt ashamed of how my hands were, now I feel happy to see that I have something pretty for my taste, because my other complexes still persist.
This is my entry to Weekend-Engagement topics: WEEK 242
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I guess we all look ourselves in front of a mirror and find disgusting details in us that in some moment we would had liked to change, just like happened to you with your hands,that, I'm not a hand-goodlooking specialist, but I see nothing wrong with yours, on the contrary. So, moving on, time and be surrounded by the right people teaches us that we are perfect the way we are, we just have to give our bodies the right health care they deserve, not to look well,that's nice, but to keep'em in shape and thus its gratefulness contributes to our wellbeing. That's what's really important, feeling well and love ourselves, can't love anyone else rightfully if you don't give love to your very self. Greetings.
I think I've gone through a period of introspection when I realized what happened to my hands. It's an important step to learn to appreciate what we didn't like before, but it's a long road, especially because the mind still has a lot of damage, but learning to love yourself is difficult but it will always be worth it. Thanks for your comment.
Yes, I know, I know it's hard to rebuild our selves when broken into pieces whatever the reason, I've been there, sometimes I still am, we are gonna keep stumbling in life, that's for sure, standing up is what matters. Still trying over the hard issues.
That's right, at the end of the day it is you who should be happy with you.
Be happy with it! I think your basic appearance is "dramatic" which probably makes some "uncomfortable", about themselves basically.
But "NO" reason to hold yourself back with "gaslighting" opinions of others. I know, I have done the same...
Over time I learned that there are people who try to make you feel bad about yourself in order to manipulate you. It is a difficult situation, but mental health depends a lot on the environment, so staying away from people who only make the situation worse is necessary. Thank you for your comment
Absolutely, and Your Welcome!
You are beautiful friend, just as you are because you are genuine and that is not due to your body complexion but to your being, you are you and uploading that picture in your social networks tells me that you should feel proud of yourself. I have previously seen some of your facets, professional, mom, daughter and also artist, and I can say with objectivity that you are a girl full of strengths and virtues to give to the world.
Hugs, I love your outfit, it reminds me a lot of the Victorian gothic era.
Thank you very much for your kind words. I truly believe that self-esteem in terms of the physical aspect is difficult to rebuild when you have been hit so many times psychologically. However, it is not impossible. Keeping myself mentally healthy is a very important issue and that is also reflected in the self-perception we have of ourselves. Hugs!
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