Weekend-Engagement topics: WEEK 208

This post is in response to one of @galenkp's prompts;

Sex on the first date...yes or no?

"It was their first time on a date, there was too much electricity, the anticipation was heavy as their eyes locked in a dance of unspoken passion, she was tipsy from all the alcohol coursing through her veins and in a moment of reckless abandon, she got right down to it. They had barely been for two hours, Angela was unable to resist the electromagnetic pull.

As the morning Sun cast its bright light on the hotel room, she was uncomfortable as he constantly avoided her gaze". He clumsily dressed up but he was not swift enough to cover up the disgusting sore on his left calf, made manifest by the brightness of the morning Sun.

She had so many questions but he hurriedly left without as much as a backward glance at her, that is after dropping some wad of notes on the bed. "Can you beat that?
Then the gravity of her action dawned on her, and she wept silently.
The 'Loverboy' never got back to her ever again....

Strangers huh? Yes they were total strangers who just bedded each other, in a moment of pure heat! full stop!

Angela was one of my roommates in the University, as she recounted her experience back then, I told myself I would never bring that kind of shame to myself nor to anything/anyone I hold sacred.

I grew up in a patriarchal society and yes I am proud to acknowledge that, seconded by the fact that I was raised by an old woman who was regarded as a great disciplinarian in her time, I would say that I have been wired or rewired differently, so to speak, and there are some values that stick no matter what.

By the reason of education and enlightenment, I have very liberal views on some matters but I am still very much old fashioned on some others. So I wouldn't have sex on the first date, no, no.... I wouldn't make that mistake, no matter the kind of attraction that there is (I wouldn't take an iota of alcohol on my first date and our meeting point must be a public place.... precautionary measures yeah.)

My views might border on extremism for some but that's just me. I would not make myself that available to hop into bed with an almost total stranger, I certainly deserve better. I would be more comfortable with someone who has become a friend, someone that I have come to know better.

Sex is an act that places both in a position of vulnerability and I don't think I could handle that, the very first time. I would prefer not to rush that part of our relationship, I would politely turn it down despite the emotional connection or attraction, infact even if there were actually so much fireworks between us, I wouldn't want to do anything that would make me detest myself down the line. Some would say it's better to establish sexual compatibility bla bla bla early on, but should relationship revolve around sex alone, It is just a part of a whole, and before pulling one's pants down, one should weigh the pros and the cons yeah.
I know it's a matter of personal preference and works for some, but it doesn't work for me.

Someone might say it is an outdated dating value but I do tell you that my policies and belief system remains sacrosanct, no compromise. if it still feels like it's our first date, It will still feel like no sex!

Thank you @galenkp for the prompt and congratulations at being four years today, I thought we would roll out the drums.... hehehehe.

The photo is my authorship.

I am @edith-4angelseu and thank you for visiting my neighbourhood.