There's so much about my life I look back on and think fondly of and have so many good memories of events which I've sought to replicate; I'd definitely not complain as it's been enjoyable, exciting and fulfilling and I feel it's been a happy life generally and I think that equates to a good life and one I can be proud of.
One of those good aspects and memories in my life...has certainly not been school.
Initially, as a young primary schooler, I didn't mind it too much; I had some friends, got involved with sports, track and field mainly, and learned at a reasonable rate. I didn't love it, my life outside of school seemed so much better than in school, but it was ok but as I got older and went to high school I decided pretty quickly I totally hated it.
I wasn't popular at school and didn't count any of the popular girls amongst my friends. I'm not really sure why but I didn't mind too much; I was content being myself and having such an interesting and enjoyable life outside school meant I didn't rely on the relationships there to fill in any gaps; I didn't have any gaps I suppose.
I was picked on at school a little; kids can be quite cruel and it seemed I was far too tall for any of them to tolerate and because my body had developed quite early I stood out more than the other girls. This led to teasing from some, unwanted attention from boys and, because teenagers can be terrible people, I was subjected to some horrible behavior that finally made me decide school wasn't for me.
It's strange thinking about it now because I say I wasn't popular but it's because I'd developed quite quickly the boys gave me a lot of attention, so that's a popularity of sorts, but when they didn't get any of it back they turned nasty and that meant I was subjected to that poor behavior I mentioned and that led to not being popular. I was ok with it.
I have two lovely friends from school, they were my two best friends, and we laugh about it now when thinking back to those school days and sometimes wonder where those popular girls are now, what they're doing, but it really doesn't matter as we all went on to lead really nice lives, have men we love and who love and respect us in return, and have positive future prospects. Being popular in school was never something I sought or wanted and I don't mind that I never was because my life has been a spectacular creation of my own design and I think that's good enough.
I was one of 'those whose names were never called when choosing sides for basketball' (Name that song!)
My nickname was deirdy weirdy so you can imagine the rest.
I wouldn't say I had a bad time at school as I know people who had it worse off than me and I think that's due mainly to the two friends I had who made it tolerable. I learned a lot though, about human nature, and I carried that forward. Kids can be terrible little beast and never really think how damaging nicknames and teasing can effect others and these days it's probably even worse as they can reach into someone's personal life through social media.
You seem content with how it was for you and certainly own your nickname so I'd say you won out.
Becca 🌷
I wasn't popular at school either, I suffered a lot of criticism, for being studious, for only caring about learning and getting good grades... I went to an all-girls school, and they can be cruel too, they have done everything to me, even put a rat in my backpack. I suffered a lot in high school, for being genuine, for being myself, but I became strong and I made it through.
Today's song is beautiful, I've added it to my list of motivational music to write. Thank you Becca.
One of the important parts of school is to grow as a person, learn some lessons that help later on, and it seems that's what happened to you and I.
It's a nice track isn't it' I'm glad you like it and have saved it for later.
Becca 🌷
That song will be playing the next time I write, I love it!
We have learned and matured, that's for sure. Thank you!💗
Within schools children and young people are exposed to dangerous scrutiny among themselves...we are quite innocent during that stage and there will always be the "smarter ones" who take advantage of the nobler ones....
We are talking about bullying right now but the truth is that there has always been bullying...in truth for many it can be overwhelming...although for others it is more passable...in short: we must all go through it but they should teach us some tips to face the challenge, and be less innocent before our first social incursion.
You're right that there's been bullying and it can be overwhelming but I think also, these days, some of the behaviours that are called 'bullying' aren't really that at all; people have become far too sensitive.
Becca 🌷
Oh I totally agree with you. I doubt that anyone who thinks being popular in school is a guarantee to having the best future/life. As a matter of fact, most popular-in-school people tend to botch life later on. Unless the popularity is in relation to academic or sporting talents.
It's good to have stories like this out there, as an encouragement to others who may not be as strong as you. High-school is really just a phase that can easily be left behind, or harnessed into a positively formidable "weapon."
Big ups to you for letting go, it takes strength.
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I've noticed that popular in school doesn't relate to popular or successful later in life as well. Sometimes it correlates but so many times the reasons a person is popular in school has no relevance in an adult environment.
Becca 🌷
School for many was quite an experience. Both good and bad. I really hope those nasty boys were treated nastily too in one way or the other.
I'm not sure how it turned out for them but I have had a lovely life, travelled, have a partner who I adore and reciprocates, have had challenges I've overcome, amazing success and more, and nothing about my school years comes to mind anymore; I've moved on.
Becca 🌷
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