But, at the end of the day, we each live our own experience and have to make do with what we have the best we can
That is why it is important to discover oneself in other to know what your personal choice of lifestyle is and also know what is convenient for you which probably will be different from others. I can't intend to live a life that won't please my satisfaction because I want to please someone else. We all have our lives to live so we need to know what satisfies our pleasure as human.
That self-discovery can be very hard and I think people tend to "discover" what is popular, what everyone else is doing, rather than truly diving deep into who they are as an individual and what they need.