However, a lot of African marriages are parasitic, that is, total dependence on either one of the gender for providence
Preach bro!!! Everything in marriages is mostly 50/50 until it comes to who foots the bills. Whiles it’s the man’s responsibility, it is not to say that a woman can not support her man keep their finance in check. A man and his woman takong care of business together? Boy pass me some of that!! Infact, this would even be one green flag of “marriage material” as we like to call them around here.
I do not think we can ever see this. I mean, the world is always vocal about gender equality. But sometimes I think we fail to sensitize people about how it's important for the girl child to consider financial literacy. African marriages are meant to be parasitic. This is because I think this is a sophisticated discussion that we are not yet enlightened about. This is one of the problems I face with marriage, I know that I might be pretty much married in years to come and this is something I do not want to face. So I think it's my turn to sensitise the person I might be with.
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Oh I’d like to think they have no problem being financially literate, they just choose to ignore the fact that partnerships like marriage require teamwork on a financial front. Give then all the financial education you’ve got, and the “Your money is our money, but my money is my money” still will be there in trace amounts.
As for sensitizing your partner, I think it’ll be much better find people with the mindset you want already. Changing people’s mindsets is a hard thing to do, close to impossible sometimes. But with someone that already thinks like you, it’ll be easier to plan and cordinate your finances together.
I like your view points about people with the same mindset as you. However. If I begin to digress on the complications of this issue I might write another post in this comment section.
I don't know if it's an African thing alone but I think it's mostly an African time when it comes to issues as this. A lot of people do not believe marriage as partnership. However one of the biggest solution to this is to totally sanitize and sensitize the mindsets and mentality going forward.
However we can just choose to ignore and take care of her own situation. The end gold beetle eventually find that person and that right state, if not we might just grow old and still keep seeking
True. Finding the right person is difficult and this is probably one of the biggest reasons why some people stay in toxic relationships. Because of the fear that once they lose their “person”, they’ll never find another again.