they never lie, and when they say it, they're actually lying
This gave me a laugh. I have seen people say it and even me, I joke with it sometimes when someone ask me, Are you lying?
I get your saying about brutal truth, it’s actually full of bitterness. That’s why there is a saying that the truth is bitter. We don’t want to hurt the feelings of others, so we withdraw some truth and tell a white lie to encourage them to do better. It’s not bad to lie so far the intentions are true.
What are your thoughts on truth and trust?
Telling the truth builds trust. And to tell the truth, one needs to be an honest person. Trust on the other, is quite hard to build depending on the individual and can be demolished only by tiny little mistake a person makes. Just like spoiling one’s reputation.
I have an issue of giving out trust easily and learnt a lesson of being poked for doing that. I give every individual a chance and sometimes unlucky about it.
Although I have met people who proved to be trust worthy, and have been of help to each other.
Yay, I'm glad that line got a laugh, it was supposed to. But, that stuff happens you know, more than I would have thought possible. Nutbags.
I have friends that are brutally honest with me and each other, it comes from past experiences and situations in which dishonesty, even with oneself, had no place. It's often unpleasant, but if it comes from a place of respect then it's acceptable. Not everyone wants friends like that though I'm ok with it.
Thanks for your thoughts on trust and truth, I appreciate it. We all have our opinions, usually based on experiences I guess, and they all differ. I find those who trust without experience or evidence the trust is well-placed are those who haven't had their trust betrayed in a major way. I think it's human nature to be a little more wary after such events.
Yeah, it is usual for us to be more wary after an experience of disappointment. There is this saying: once bitten, twice shy.
Only my close friends, with whom we hang out together most of the time, can be brutally honest, and I won't feel all that bad because I know it's the truth. But when it comes from someone who I don't know, it feels like the person is trashing me or kind of have a beef with me.
Truths that come from those we don't count as valid are usually unwelcome as you say. It doesn't make it any less the truth I guess though. Still, unsolicited advice, observations and opinions are mostly not that welcome I guess, especially if they don't align with one's own thoughts.
I'm not even a full blown adult so I see I have a lot to learn. But I do agree that our experiences and situations make us. Just like T.D Jakes said in his book how who you are stems from the knowledge of things around you. And being honest can be hard too. Not just with oneself but with their loved ones.
The truth is always never... sweet! I mean, who wants to be told that they are not trying enough? But the fact is, most times, it is our conscience that tells the whole truth about who we are not other people and soon, our actions fall in line with what we really are.