Think like a Viking: Part sixty five

in Self Improvement2 years ago

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A rotten branch will be found in every tree.

Thursday's are Viking quote days although I'm doing every second Thursday now and interspersing my, think like a leader, series on the alternate day. Sometimes I choose a quote randomly and sometimes based upon relevance or meaning to my life, and share some thoughts on it. These thousand year old phrases still offer value in modern society. original im src



This week's Viking quote

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A rotten branch will be found in every tree.

- The Saga of Olaf Haraldsson -

I do not believe perfection exists and neither do I think it's healthy for a person to seek it because failing to achieve something that isn't attainable in the first place simply sets someone up for disappointment. Working towards continuous improvement, on the other hand, is a much better way to find a sense of achievement and it's attainable.

I used to put a lot of pressure upon myself to perform at high levels and I'd even attain them sometimes but, when I didn't, I felt bad about the entire process; it was very limiting behaviour. I'd also never stop to celebrate success or a result achieved, just immediately look for the next. Little by little it weighed me down. When I switched to seeking continual improvement and actually rewarding myself for attaining a goal, my results improved dramatically.

In looking at the quote this week, I've chosen to suggest that nothing is perfect and I've lived enough of life to agree completely. With this in mind, I have to also say that, no person is perfect.

I had a situation recently in which someone I thought well of, respected and liked, acted in a manner unbecomming. The actions that individual took left me thinking less of them and that made me feel sad and disappointed because I don't want to think that way about them...but I do.

I'm one of those people who is happy to adjust how I see, feel or respond to a person; I am able to draw a line beneath people and simply move on without another thought of them coming to mind. It's not always easy to do, but it's required because I don't feel it's wise to surround myself with the wrong people; they are not worthy of me. I've been been brutally efficient at doing so with people that were once very close to me and that's been a rather terrible thing to do sometimes, other times it's been easy, especially those who have shown themselves to be people I am far better off without, those underserving of G-dog types.

It's worked to my advantage mostly, but it's meant that relationships with people I've valued and liked, have ended.

Over time, I've come to understand that even seemingly good situations or people can have negative aspects to them and this is especially so with relationships. They can ebb and flow back and forth; they are never perfect and thinking of them that way, or trying to make them that way is a fools errand. People are flawed and fallible, it's a human condition.

This doesn't mean we have to accept other people's behaviours that compromise ourselves, leave us feeling negative, hurt or unhappy, but understanding that perfection doesn't exist can go a long way towards keeping relationships together and wholesome; I mean any person to person relationships here.

Sometimes, most of the time actually, a little understanding is required and sometimes cutting a person off is the best, or only, way forward. The trick is knowing which is relevant and when. Understanding that nothing is perfect helps in this process, no matter which direction or choices are chosen.


That's it for this week, a thousand year-old Viking quote reminding us that nothing and nobody is perfect no matter how it may seem and evaluating the situation, applying understanding, can be advantageous to determien a path forward.

There are so many ways this quote could be perceived and I've just written about one aspect. Please feel free to disagree with my interpretation and add your own in the comments below.

Skol.

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They can ebb and flow back and forth; they are never perfect and thinking of them that way, or trying to make them that way is a fools errand. People are flawed and fallible, it's a human condition.

I'm going through a difficult personal situation right now and this is exactly what I needed to read. Thank you.

I'm sorry to hear that, and aim hope you plot a course into calmer waters soon. From what I have read from you I think you have the ability.

I'm pleased to hear something in this post made sense at the moment you needed it to.

I am able to draw a line beneath people and simply move on without another thought of them coming to mind.

That is strong! I am not able to do that, I know that I would at least wonder if I did the right thing.

I do understand that at times it is healthier all the way around to step over some relationships or step away from a situation. I have had to do that, but, I never feel comfortable doing it. Until I did. I understand the need to distance yourself and never turn back. I could second guess myself out of guilt and that is never worth it.

Hi, Galen! I hope all is well with you!

I don't allow myself to wonder that, I guess I make the decision knowing it is the right one at the time and based on what I know, perceive or understand. Once I've moved on it doesn't come to mind. Keeping in mind, drawing lines under people like this is not an everyday thing and is an extreme measure.

Moving away from a negative force or influence has never been a problem for me, I know what staying will do to me and in leaving, at least I have a better chance at better.

Hi Swigly, I'm doing well and hope you are also! 😊

You know, everyone has their own story, and everyone has their off days. I know I do. My boys will call me on it when it happens and I'll thank them for pointing it out and apologise. That's part of the self-improvement that you speak of.

I've been lucky enough to not run into too many of the rotten branches. A few, but they're well gone from my life now, too, and no sense in dwelling on the past.

I agree, no sense dwelling on those rotten branches, they were exited for a reason at the time, so it's best to own it, and move on.

Also, getting called out as you say, that's a good thing. It's a reality check and allows us to be better for ourselves and others around us. Self improvement indeed.

Thanks for your comment. I hope you're kicking ass.

(I hope that's not me 🙂)

I agree with you and unfortunately these things happen in life. Sometimes you feel like this after years of knowing the person, which hurts the most.

I am able to draw a line beneath people and simply move on without another thought of them coming to mind.

I've learnt to do that when life made me realize how short it is. It's harsh but necessary if you don't want to waste your time with people who don't deserve you.

Lol, nah you're ok, it's not you.

I'm not one to stay around someone just because that's how it's always been. I believe that people change, I know I have, and that sometimes people move in different directions and drift away. That doesn't mean that don't/can't drift back. Those others though, the ones that need to be cut out like cancer? Yeah, I'm good at dealing with them.

don't want to waste your time with people who don't deserve you.

Fuckzactly!

That's my word for "fucken exactly! Lol.

It's hard to say no, but once you start doing that, your life will change in better. Lesson to learn early, if you don't want to be exploited emotionally and maybe financially as well.

Self preservation is difficult sometimes, but essential.

Beautiful Quotes, containing so much truth. No one is perfect and in my view perfection is not something to pursue, I think we have to be able to become the best version of ourselves but that doesn't mean being perfect. I discovered your blog I think I'm going to re-read all your posts your columns fascinate me. Well done! A hug!

Thank you for your comment, and kind words.

I like your way of thought in respect of perfection and you're right, no one is perfect, or could ever be. In fact, I often say that it's a person's imperfections that make them perfectly them; it goes for all of us. Seeking perfection wastes time, continually seeking improvement towards being one's best version of oneself, is a much more wholesome pursuit.

I'm glad you found some value in my post and hope you do in others.

I am sure I will find it in all your posts. I'll recover them slowly because I want to dedicate the right time to everyone 😉

You're a good chap by the sounds of it and aim think you're on the right track here on Hive.

Ah, but how Nature deals with rotten branches! I hear they host great in their biodiversity mini societies and then they get dissolved into the soil. What would the Viking analogue of that be?

I've no idea what the Vikings would think of that, there is none, but this quote isn't really about trees or branches I guess. Still, I know a few people I'd like to see get dissolved into the soil.

What an amazing words i appreciate your time used in putting this great write up together. It's true that tomorrow isn't promised so we had to do what we meant to do in the future now and stop thinking of tomorrow. Thank you for an inspired post.

I'm not sure that stopping thinking of tomorrow is an overly good idea as it may mean we're not prepared for it. I think we need to focus on the present and plan for the future because a lack of planing for the future won't result in a very good one.

Yes we have to focus now and plan for a better tomorrow. Thank you.

The depth of your words touched my soul. Thanks for the post, never stop doing them.

Thank you, I appreciate you reading and taking the time to comment.

It is a pleasure

Very interesting article and very good for us to read.

Thank you.

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In looking at the quote this week, I've chosen to suggest that nothing is perfect and I've lived enough of life to agree completely. With this in mind, I have to also say that, no person is perfect.

I agree with 💯 no perfect human apart from God.