Supporting someone in finding out who they are is a form of leadership.

All you describe is leadership. Being a parent is leadership. It's not always done well and many parents have a lot to answer for, but essentially it's leadership.

Anyway, if it's convenient for you not to call it leadership then that's fine but essentially everyone on the planet engages in some form of leadership at some stage in their lives. Even you. It's unavoidable.

My point in this post is, we can influence positively or negatively and that we have the choice to select which one. And that means you too.