I really wish this whole make goals thing worked for me.
It doesn't work in two ways.
Lets say you were Edison, and you wanted to make a manufacturable light bulb.
What goals can you make? There is nothing measurable, attainable or focussed
except the end... have a manufacturable light bulb.
What do you do except keep trying various ways of getting there.
And often, the best thing to do is take a nap.
The other problem is in self healing.
I want to get 50% better at dealing with the trauma my mother inflicted upon me....?
There is nothing here that is measurable. Only in hindsight, after reading your diary can you notice that you have made improvements.
And the percentages go more like, 1%, 2%, 3%, 5%, 30%, 100%
I am glad that you do not make new years resolutions, as those are pretty much doomed to failure. When the resolution strikes you, you should take it on.
You've never set a goal for yourself?
There is nothing in the measurable, quantifiable and achievable category that i desire enough to make it a goal.
All my goals aren't really goals... they are destinations on a path... that may be unachievable.
Further, when childhood trauma leaves you with no self-esteem. Goals are really difficult to achieve. Self sabotage or worse. If you do no set a goal, it is often easier. Sneak up on success.
That's a shame. Goals are powerful. Oh well, if what you're doing delivers an awesome life then stick with it.