More or less, we are the same. But when I grew up, I imagined my parents, and I'm sure they also had big, painful problems that left the same trauma for their descendants.
That's why I'm always determined that there should be no trauma or painful things in the past that are passed down to our children, it doesn't feel fair.
Hopefully by forgiving our parents, our family life in the future will be more relieved and blessed :)