It often seems enviable when the relationship between a mother and daughter is close, but blurring the roles can cause problems. A friendly relationship, for example, is equal in the sense that both parties have the same opportunities and expectations. However, when parent and child are on the same level, the former abandons certain responsibilities. At first, this may be a good thing for the child, but in the long term there are many disadvantages.

I am not a psychologist, but such a relationship limits its independence: she may find it difficult to develop her own ideas, even different from those of her mother, and may be afraid to make decisions alone. She may become lonely, because she does not learn how to develop close relationships with peers outside the family.

It can also have a blocking effect on the relationship: the mother can become so involved in her daughter's life that she becomes almost a third party.

The child may also be burdened with stories and feelings that the mother should not have to deal with because of her age, and these can create stress and a need to conform. This may cause the child to put his or her own needs on the back burner, because he or she feels he or she has to solve the mother's problems.

So she is forced into a role that the parent has to fulfil, i.e. she is parentified. Such young people are not able to live their own lives, their desires are repressed, and they find it difficult to detach themselves emotionally from the parent.

Of course I do not see your life, and you may say (and you are absolutely right) that this is none of my business, but I felt the need to write down my own opinion and concerns about this.