How important it is to be present in our children's lives

Every one of us loves our children unconditionally and wishes them the best. We want to teach them all we know, create a value system that not only we are proud of, but they are proud of themselves once they are grown.

The role of us fathers in the family is important. Even if you are like me working over 12 hours a day 6 days a week. You need to find time to spend with your child/children so they know you are there to help them with advice or praise them when they have some success.

The father's role in the family is to make the rules, as strong and strict as a mother is she is just as soft and yielding. That is why we as fathers need to step in.

In the eyes of children - fathers are heroes - we are taller, bigger and stronger than our wives so in many cases the child wants to associate with us.

The mother on the other hand personifies kindness, love and care. She is softer so in front of her the child makes more whims and attempts at manipulation to get what the child wants.

When the child was still a baby, I was mostly afraid of hurting him with my rough hands during diaper changes and bathing, but that doesn't mean I wasn't actively involved. Raising a child should happen in tandem and everyone should do what they can, and here the onus falls mainly on the mother - after all, she is the one who "produces" the baby's food.

As a father, I am more involved in the upbringing and education of the children. My older son doesn't live with me, but when we are together I try to teach him and show him something that he finds interesting and will benefit from going forward. My youngest son and I play and talk, he's babyish basically, but sometimes he relaxes around me and drops a word - something he doesn't do around his mother.

It's important to me that children know they are loved, that there is someone to hold them and support them. That's why I hug them and kiss them on the forehead at every moment. Just because the kids are at home doesn't mean I shouldn't show my love to my spouse too. We hug in front of them when they see that and they come over to hug all together.

Children need both parents, even if they don't live together, to know they are loved, to know that if there is a problem they can go to either of them for help and that they will be helped. This helps them to build a stronger character for the future as well as their further insight into seeking a partner and romantic relationships for the future.

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