When everything is so tough to keep going, your smile and laughter always reminds me that Life is a blessing.
I used to dream of a happy ever after. Falling in love, getting married & having kids. I can still remember, back in college days, I used to write essays about the most common topic on "How did you see yourself ten years from now?". I began writing down and started getting excited making the essay with a smile on my face. My eighteen year old self started writing "Ten years from now, I'm living my dream, working in the office, excited to go home as I see my husband waiting for me outside and pick up our little princess that is waiting for us at her grandparents house." One simple dream. But then, when I was in my early twenties, devastated after every heartbreaks, my simple dream was shattered. That's why during my mid-twenties, I only wish for one thing, to have a child. I can say that God really work wonders! My wish was granted. I got pregnant at 26, I raised my child, along with my parents & my siblings and I couldn't be happier.
I focused on becoming the best version of me for my daughter. I'm just so lucky enough to be waking up everyday beside this beautiful angel that reminds me every now and then that I am loved beyond borders. I can't be any prouder having a sweet daughter like her who hugs me when I'm sad and wipes away my tears when she sees me crying. She never fails to say I love you mommy, every now and then. She won't even let me go to work without me hugging & kissing her goodbye and her telling me "I love you mom, see you later!".
She's as bubbly as she can be, but being a kid, sometimes she stresses me out. As soon as I get home from work, everything is a disaster inside our room. Liptstick all over the wall and toys all over the floor. Especially now that she can't go out because of this pandemic. So everytime she's bored, she find ways to entertain herself. Though she always apologizes whenever I get mad.
Having her completes me. I may not have found my happy ending but I'm very happy having her around because I know at the end of the day, someone loves me more than anyone else.
She's now going back to school on her 1st grade and will be doing online class. I'm really proud that during her hiatus, she's still learning. She now knows how to read well. She thinks like a mature person sometimes, she even told me one time that I'm her bestfriend. It almost made me cry. I can't thank God enough for this wonderful blessing.
Cheers to all the mommy's out there! You're all very lucky to have your children with you. And special thanks to all her Tita's and Tito's who loves her to the point of spoiling her too much @morenatravels @jongcl @eeventuree @swaycanete @gioxide.arts & @thejoeprocess and to our lovely parents.
And to my ever dearest daughter, one day you'll get to read your mommy's blog, you know that mommy loves you to the moon and back! After all, you are my Happy Ever After. 😘
Sassy Cebuana
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It often seems enviable when the relationship between a mother and daughter is close, but blurring the roles can cause problems. A friendly relationship, for example, is equal in the sense that both parties have the same opportunities and expectations. However, when parent and child are on the same level, the former abandons certain responsibilities. At first, this may be a good thing for the child, but in the long term there are many disadvantages.
I am not a psychologist, but such a relationship limits its independence: she may find it difficult to develop her own ideas, even different from those of her mother, and may be afraid to make decisions alone. She may become lonely, because she does not learn how to develop close relationships with peers outside the family.
It can also have a blocking effect on the relationship: the mother can become so involved in her daughter's life that she becomes almost a third party.
The child may also be burdened with stories and feelings that the mother should not have to deal with because of her age, and these can create stress and a need to conform. This may cause the child to put his or her own needs on the back burner, because he or she feels he or she has to solve the mother's problems.
So she is forced into a role that the parent has to fulfil, i.e. she is parentified. Such young people are not able to live their own lives, their desires are repressed, and they find it difficult to detach themselves emotionally from the parent.
Of course I do not see your life, and you may say (and you are absolutely right) that this is none of my business, but I felt the need to write down my own opinion and concerns about this.
Points well taken. We all have different views and values in life but for now this is how I felt and I am just so grateful in life. Also, I came from a big family and grew up with so much love from my parents. 😊😊 I appreciate you for dropping by and for also stating your opinion. 😊😊 thank you!
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Thanks Miessy! 😊
You're doing really well gyud kaayo! 💜💜💜
🤭🤗 hehe I owe my parents a lot☺
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Buyag2 ☺☺ thanks Sasha!
Bitaw buyag, hehe
This is a very good post.
Thank you😊
The most beautiful feeling in the world is being a mother. And you got that feeling. Our Creator says that the first daughter is born in that house. That house is filled with the light of paradise. You and your little princess will stay healthy.
Bella tu hija dios las cuide y las siga manteniendo siempre Juntas saludos y bendiciones 💖
Thank you thank you! ☺☺☺ it's my greatest blessing. Have a nice day!