My son is not a mamma's boy from the very beginning. Not even when I was his primary source of food.
But that's okay. It doesn't bother me at all. Because seeing his relationship with his Dad make me feel proud than anything. Whenever some say this to me, like aww...you are not his favorite parent! I always say mom is something else, we got a relation with our child that doesn't need to build rather it's already something we have before we give birth to them.
Maybe my son is not too attached to me now, at this age but gradually he will. I'm proud that I made the room for his dad to make a quality attachment with his son.
He made this piece of art seeing the cover of his coloring book. When I asked him, where's mom? He felt a little embarrassed and draw me beside him. Quote — unquote, I never make him feel guilty for preferring his dad on everything.
Let me give you some examples of what I'm talking.
My son and husband eats together, my son usually wait for his Dad but never for me if it's his favorite snacks. He usually asks his dad to help him in the washroom, he sometimes co-sleep with his dad. And always keeps aside some of his snacks every single day for his dad to enjoy after coming back from the office. But usually never do these things for me.
As I have said earlier, all these never makes me feel bad or anything. I find this more helpful to build a healthy father-son relationship. I see our relationship is something that doesn't need recognition because my son is already a part of me.
In my country, it's still a stigma to be actively involved in parenting for a dad. In most households, they don't help in feeding or cleaning the baby. From the very beginning, I made sure my husband do that. And it will never be possible without his willingness. I believe, what he learned and felt from raising his baby boy helps both of them to understand each other better, to build a read good attachment.
I'm not in the race to be the favorite parent and I will never be. Seeing them giggle together, play and spend quality time make my heart full.
Yes, he will. It's just a matter of time. You're a wonderful mother. When he grows up he will realize that and will do anything for you.
I too hope so. Thanks for your warm words. :)
My pleasure ❤️
Amiga me pasa igual mi hijo está más cerca de su papá, aunque pasa más tiempo conmigo siento que disfruta más estar con el papá pero la verdad es que me encanta verlos juntos jugar. Saludos! @rem-steem
They love their father because they don't discipline them much as we do. Also, they always stay with us so dad is something exciting for them than us. But it's a good thing.
I believe, over time he will eventually grow an attachment with you.
Have a good day :)
Well, I guess at the start it's just how it is for many kids. I also leaned more towards my father when I was younger, but slowly I myself turned into a mommas boy. They both were and always will be a very crucial part of my life, but in different aspects, so I guess it all changes with time and age.
That's the thing I believe. Kids have a build-in bonding with mom. That's why I'm cool seeing my son never prefering me for anything 😅
Hello, mom! I was closer with my dad, too. I never really had a very close relationship with my mom. We rather usually argue and we used to spit hate speeches toward each other. But I love her. I really loved her a lot. And growing up, I did my best to show it to her even though it was a bit awkward given the relationship we had before. I made her feel my love for her that I failed to do before. Maybe your son will come around you soon. I'm sure he loves you but is still looking for a way to show it to you.
I also have a bitter cold relationship with my mom and always had a nice one with my dad.
My son is cool with me but he prefers his dad because with him he can have some fun with less discipline.
I hope you would be able to make smooth relationship with your mom.
Good to know your experience. Have a good day.
Thank youuuu!
It's been a while I heard that kids are more closer to their dad than their mom. I love it when I see a kid that's closer to the dad. In my case I'm closer to my dad than my mom and there are lots of benefits I gain from that. He buys me gift more than any of my sibling and communicates with me even more. I know all his secret chess even my mom doesn't know. So your son and his dad's relationship is something I really admire. It's good you don't feel bad about it but some parents do.
Isn't it cool. I was also closest to my Dad then my mom.
Kids have a build-in relationship with mom but they need to grow a good attachment with Dad.
I also feel peace seeing their attachment.
That's lovely. I'm glad you don't feel neglected in a way. Really cool
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