#NOMASBULLYING - Hijos... El Reflejo De Sus Padres // #NOMOREBULLYING - Children... The Reflection Of Their Parents [ESP-ING]

Unfortunately we live today in a society that dedicates little time to values at home, those values and principles that existed in ancient times and that formed respectful people long ago.

While it is true that as time goes by love is being lost more and more in humanity, as parents we have the immense responsibility to instill love and respect in our children?

And it is here where my head tells me:

"Mariana, no one can inculcate something that he/she does not have to give..."

... If our conversations, our topics, what comes out of our mouth reflects: hatred, resentment, bitterness, unhappiness, criticism, suspicions and more... Obviously what our children will absorb will be what they hear from us day after day without stopping. And it is there where so many potential abusers are formed, capable of leading someone to the frustration of taking their own life or in a less extreme case of making them bitter until they can't take it anymore.

Many will excuse themselves by saying: I don't send my son to school to fight, or I don't tell him to make fun of someone who doesn't have the same social level.... But, what about what we hear from their mouths in the intimacy of the home?

What comes out of the mouth reflects much of what is in the heart and in the case of our little ones, we are in time to extirpate any bad inclination.

To cite an example...

I am the mother of an 8 year old girl, very agile in mind... A couple of months ago, very upset, she came up to me and said:

"Mom, I can't stand such a child.... He is a show-off, everything his parents buy him he shows off non-stop, even what he eats he shows it to me to make me feel bad... I don't want to talk to him anymore, I don't like him."

I smiled and putting myself in her place, kindly my answer was:

"Daughter, don't take it badly, that child doesn't do it for evil. Maybe he is very happy for the gifts his parents are giving him and his excitement leads him to show them to everyone without stopping.... Don't always think badly of others, that will lead you in the future to be a suspicious person and then half the world will dislike you. Also, we have learned to rejoice for the good of others, if every time someone shows you something new it will make you feel bad, then something is not right in your heart, because without realizing it you may be feeling jealous or envious and that is not healthy at all. Always rejoice for the good in others.... Regardless of their attitude and.... You are still too little to talk about whether you dislike someone."

She kept thinking and answered me between her teeth: ...It's ok mom and went to play.

It should be noted that in order for me to give her such advice, I have to have morals. It would be illogical to tell her this and minutes later, I would be badmouthing this child's mother or someone else.

However, in my mind that topic kept going around and every time I heard the boy call her, his words would come to my mind, then I would go back to tell her the same speech, sometimes I would hear that she answered him badly, then I would call her and with a firm voice I would tell her: say hello with Kindness.

We may think that this is a childish thing, however as parents, we know that it may be something temporary and that it may be an inclination, and I do not want my daughter to be unhappy when she grows up because of developing feelings that will not benefit her at all and that in turn will harm others.

This society has been very dedicated to what it can look like... A lot of studies, a lot of extracurricular classes, good clothes, good gifts... And where is the primordial thing? Where are the values? The principles?

As Franco de Vita's song, very famous for its lyrics, says... "No Basta..."

Cases like the one that happened in the United States with the child Drayke Hardman, is not very isolated from each one of us. Our children are exposed every day to abuse, bad words, mockery, exclusion.... But what about us? Are we aware of how our children treat others, or do we applaud their bad attitudes? Or worse, do we even notice them?

On the other hand, this case and millions of others show how important it is to cultivate trust with our children, I remember that.... When I was in 3rd grade of elementary school, 3 girls from higher grades, grabbed me by force and beat me non-stop.... Even at this point in my life, I don't remember what made them do that to me, but for fear of being scolded at home I didn't tell my parents....

I would not like my daughter to hide something like that from me ever... So the question is... Am I strengthening the bonds of trust? Or does she see me as an ogre who will get upset at anything?

Being a parent is hard work...

We are the reflection of what our parents were...

Will I like what I will see in my children in the not too distant future? We still have time to work on it.

Thank you very much, dear reader, for taking the time to read my post...

Let's take good care of our children's mental and emotional health, no parent deserves to go through such a painful feeling as the parents of little Drayke.

It is a very sensitive issue, but every parent at home is in time, has the opportunity to help, to contribute, to contribute, so that there is no more abuse from our children.... Or on the contrary, to lay the firm foundations of trust to not allow abusers to damage the lives of our beloved children.

Thank you for your visit, see you in a future post.

Best regards!