A KEY TO SUCCESSFUL PARENTHOOD

As women, especially ones who aspire to be mothers, it is very important to try as much as we can to associate with those who are already mothers as this will help prepare us for what is to come. Unlike me, not everyone enjoys to take care of children. If the child is not their sibling or their own children, you will hardly ever see them showing interest to be part of that child’s growth. They feel it is too stressful and it is best for them to stay away until they become one themselves.

There are so many benefits when we who are yet-to-be mothers associates with those who have been privileged to be one. Most times, because you’ve had the opportunity to learn from other’s experiences, you won’t have to face some setbacks that comes with parenthood. Like I was saying yesterday in my post, the importance of knowledge can’t be overstated and also, no knowledge that we have today that is lost. Just sitting and waiting to be a mother before you start acting like one is only going to cost you so much. Sometimes, you will even find out that you can’t even learn again because it becomes even more difficult then.

I remember when my friend was still unmarried, her sister gave birth to a child and she had some complications. This unfortunate situation taught my friend and I some lessons and this was because we were very much available to help out. My friend had days when she was the only one who took care of the child since her sister was still hospitalized. She literally had a taste of motherhood and now, thanks to the knowledge and experiences she got from taking care of her niece, taking care of her own child became a little more easier to cope with.

Even while she was pregnant, due to the fear of what happened to her sister, she was always inquiring about different things from others who have gone through similar situations and she kept learning and that somehow helped her managed some fears that comes with being pregnant. Sometimes I wonder how it would have been for her if she had no knowledge about all of these, I’m very sure it would have been really difficult for her to scale through some of the setbacks she faced.

So as non-mothers, it is not out of place to stop by communities where mothers share some tips on how they make things work. Yes, I know every mother does not have the same experiences and solutions to problems no matter how similar but then, just for the fact that you have a knowledge of something, that will help you know how to go about finding solutions when the need arises. Just waiting for motherhood to come before you start preparing for it is just like someone preparing for an exam on the exam day. It will only take God’s grace for you to pass that examination.

For our mothers out there, it is good that we also cultivate the habit of sharing most of our experiences and teaching our younger girls about what we have learnt from motherhood, not as a law or something but just for them to know that these things are happening so it can shape them to be better mothers when they find themselves in similar situations. And also, don’t hesitate to be inquisitive about things. When you have a question in mind, always look for a way to ask that question because you never know who might be opportune to learn from it and in the end you won’t just help yourself but your fellow mother.

The journey of motherhood starts from the moment you know you are a woman and same goes to fatherhood too. Learning how to be a good parent before the time comes will only be of advantage to you, your spouse and most especially to your children. Take out time to be around those who have already been there and try to help out in anyway you can and even as you do that, you will surprised just how much you’d learn.

Thank you for reading through. Don’t hesitate to leave your comments, your thoughts and experiences so others can learn. ❤️

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