Today it is practically impossible to completely eliminate the problem of labels especially in children. What do I mean by "labels"? Labels are no longer judgments of value that restrict the personality of a person in this case of children, in which the characteristics that define them are defined, such as, is cute, is small, It is tremendous, it is deaf.
Returning to the subject, the effects of this problem can be minimized, as long as parents have a good understanding of what they are doing and, together, try not to turn their children into simple stereotypes.
- Listen to yourself when describing your children to your friends. Labels are often born when parents talk about their children with other parents. For example, in social gatherings, where everyone likes to show off and also complain about their children, you can learn a lot about how you perceive your children.
- Be very sensitive about what you received during your childhood and how it affected your life. Do you automatically label your daughter "the shy one" simply because that's what they called you? Take a look and think about how that label affected her. Even if your daughter is very shy, would you like to reinforce that lack of confidence in her?
- Don't think of pictures as Privilege titles that can carry a heavy load, without saying anything about the resentment they may cause in other children. And never forget that her shy daughter can dream of becoming a skier.
- Remember that each individuality of a little one. Keep in mind that different abilities emerge at different stages of life. Your 6.8-year-old daughter may be something of an ostrich among the peacocks in your ballet group, but in six or seven years she may be a swimming champion.
- Don't think for a moment that putting a different label on each of your children will prevent fights between them. Sibling competition is not only inevitable, but positive, experts say.
- If the negative images have been put by a teacher, you have to intervene immediately. Children often accept everything their teachers tell them to be true. You have to talk to that teacher and ask her specifically about the problems that she sees in her son. Respect what he or she says, but make it clear that you do not want her child to be labeled. And don't think for a moment that the problem will be solved only when the child changes teachers. If you don't act, that tag can continue in the other class, and maybe the next class.
- Don't use labels to achieve the goals you want for your children. Perhaps you are hoping your son is a famous professional athlete or your daughter is successful in Hollywood. But just because you assign these aspirations to them does not mean that they make them come true. The result can be a painful disappointment for both you and your children.
- Also, do not allow your child to label himself with negative labels. If a child starts saying about him ("I am a fool", "I am a loser"), do not simply react with a phrase like: "What you are saying does not make sense". Go deeper. Look carefully for the true reasons for this behavior. Help him understand that low self-esteem limits a person's overall vision. Regardless, encourage her to see not only her weak points, but also her strengths.
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