I couldn't scream because of the pressure on my neck. Tears dropped from my eyes and deep down, I hoped he killed me. I know it was a stupid thing to hope for but, this was the guy who had proved to me that not all men were like my dad.
James had made me fall in love with him after 18 years and 9 months of hating the male gender. He had helped me appreciate myself and discover the talents in me. And here he is, choking and trying to kill me, shattering my dreams of the perfect man. Where and who should I run to?
I had gotten used to him, I looked up to him and his love, and so, I didn't feel the pain he was inflicting on me. I was lost in thought and was dying inside me because of the pains he caused me emotionally, mentally and physically.
My neighbour felt the commotion and came to check out what was happening. As she knocked the door, I stared at James and pleaded with him to let go because I don't want the neighbours to get to know of the problems we are having. I quickly managed to shout 'we are fine' after James left me. My neighbour heard me and was convinced that there was no problem whatsoever, so she said goodnight and left.
With the pains all over me, I cried myself to sleep and hoped for a brighter tomorrow. When I woke up in the morning, he was there on the bed with apples, chocolate and a card with the words I AM SORRY boldly written on it. I didn't want to be alone.... so I said 'okay', I forgave him.
PIXABAY
That was the day I opened the gates. I gave him my body and said "take my body, and turn it a ball, kick it with everything you can, please never stop till my body crushes ....., ". So, he made it a punching bag and I helped him kick it the more. But instead of my body crushing, It tolerated the pain ... I wonder why...
Your story proves once again that it is women who allow such violence to keep repeating itself.
There is no love where there is no respect.
If there is respect there can be no violence.
Do not let anyone make you his punching bag.
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Obviously, most women do allow such to happen all in the name of 'I love my husband'. Indeed, there is no love where there is no respect and if there is respect, there can't be violence.... Guess I have learnt something new from your comment.. I appreciate you stopping by.... Thanks
Thank you. My pleasure.
-Brutality like that should be stopped! The perfect guy on that action??? Are you kidding? A guy like that is worthless. There is always a limit on that..everything has it's time. Hehe..only a fool and stupid woman will let that action passed!!! Hehe Actually I made few articles in the
laptop but having difficulty on transferring data, it's regarding disgraceful and shameful behaviours of a men just that some urgent issues here in our place stopping me to finished I will post that tomorrow.
Awesome article!👍👍👍
#dreemer
Thanks so much @aimharryianne, I really appreciate your comment. You are so right... Only a fool would be violated domestically and still allow that to be..
I can't wait to read your article on this.. Looking forward to it...
Say no to domestic violence.
-I already posted the article regarding this last night. But it's just a simple one. With Bible verse.
Ok.. I will definitely check it out... Weldone...keep up the good work
An older friend, who I call my sister, once told me: 'If a man hits you once, run. Run away from him. Cause no matter how sorry he is, he will do it again.' And that is one of the things I always remind myself of.
Great article!
You are very right.... If you end up not doing anything the first time it happens, you have eventually given him the licence to beat you at his convenience. Always know when to stand up for yourself, keeping quiet might lead to so many things including death..
Thanks so much for visiting my blog... I appreciate ma'am
You're welcome. Yes, many women tend to believe the man when he says he is sorry. But being aggressive is a problem that goes way deeper. A simple sorry doesn't fix that.
Imagine the kind of pain she's passing through, had it's been some people will foresee what will happen after marriage, I belt it, majority will choose to remain single rather than falling into the hand of someone who will treat them like they are not human. What a bleak!
I don't know why some men hide their identify in relationship, they pretend to be whom they are not just because they want to be goo, and after marriage they show the real monster in them , imagine that kind of situation!
What a good woman , even when everything is not fine with them , she still manage to tell her neighbors that they are fine despite the fact she's dying in the hand of this monster called his husband.
But I will ask , is not better to speak out rather than enduring the pain?
What of if her life was taken in the process of enduring the pain?
I guess a step to stop all this battering should be taken, why enduring.
Marriage is not meant to be endured but to be enjoyed.
Always know you to be a beautiful writter, I got to see your post through @dreemport and I find it so interesting.
Believe me, once a man hits you, no matter what he gives you or says, IT WILL GET WORSE. Leave him now.
Thanks for your contribution... The truth remain that it will always get wore once you have given him that licence to beat you no matter how sorry he is, it will definitely repeat itself...
yes
This is saying that you gave yourself and accepted to be used as a punching bag. It's possible that after that incident that night, there has been more. There have been other times he hit you. Domestic Violence shouldn't be endured no matter what.
But what to do when you're so used to loving this person?
#dreemer
Being madly in love with a person sometimes makes someone to overlook so many thing but that eventually ends up being a weak point that can be taken advantage of... I want to say here that no matter how much you love a person, when it comes to issues that concerns your life, put love aside and flee for your life....
Constantly being beaten up by someone you love without fighting back might lead to your death because it will definitely get to a time when your body will not be able to bear all the pains anymore..
No way ! That's cruel of him you must not live with such person..I won't suggest you to live with home anymore. It's better to get divorced rather than dying of being beaten.
@dreemport #dreemport
On point... It's so cruel of him but sadly that's how some guys are... Divorce would have being an option but being beaten up constantly isn't a requirement for divorce when we use the Bible standard.
I believe there are so many other ways to go about it... Living the home is an option because you wouldn't want to lose your life being beaten up always...
But if marriage isn't working we must opt for separation even when we realize that the match is not going well