It isn't just the way they raise us: it's in our blood, literally; we are what our grandmothers ate!
You Are What Your Grandparents Ate: What You Need to Know About Nutrition, Experience, Epigenetics and the Origins of Chronic Disease

The religious indoctrination... I grew up in Bible Belt country, where all good families go to church and sing "I know that my Redeemer lives," but it's amazing how many good Christian fathers beat their kids (no, mine didn't physically harm us!), while the submissive wives/mothers made no effort to stop the beating that left welts and scars. I've only recently learned of one farm family from my childhood whose sons all scattered, alienated from the abusive father. "Spare the rod, spoil the child" - that scene in "Places in the Heart" where the widowed mother "knows" that she must whip her son because his dad isn't there to do it.....
Thanks for reading and commenting. You are very insightful.