I have taken revenge at times, and I find that, later on, I always regret having done that. After the dust settles, I am left only with misgivings about my actions. What I refuse to do, however, is to forgive unless they apologize. If they don't realize how they have hurt or even harmed me, I will never trust them again, and forgiveness includes trust. Begone! to them. I move on to people with more integrity and less cruelty to be involved with.

It's always very strange to run into the louses again (usually at weddings or funerals) where they act as if they are still in my good graces. I feel no need to get into the past events, unless they bring them up, which some of them cannot help doing. I believe they think they are only teasing me, and that I am too sensitive about past events, but I let them have it anyway, and I do not care who is there to hear.

This is not revenge, it's clearing the air. Revenge is something altogether different. Revenge is doing harm to another, for which there is no justification. I feel much lighter now that I choose to walk away. Sound like you have done that here.