Oscar Wilde, you cynical bastard...I disagree with you. Ok, so if I'm honest I sort of agree and sort of disagree with the quote as I've seen many cases in which Oscar's words fit perfectly; however I have seen many relationships between men and women in which friendship is the foundation. I'm actually in some of those relationships where it's simply friendship and nothing more or less.
You're probably wondering why I chose this quote today...well, I was thinking about the connections we make on Hive and how we, or others in the community see them - not that the latter really matters at all. There's people from all over the world, different cultures, socio-economic realities, religions (or lack of religion in my case), ages, intelligence and so on...and then there's the differences in thought and attitude, ideology and a million other things besides. Of course, we're all men and women too...and last time I looked, there's a difference between the genders. No folks, I'm not saying there's an inequality, just that men and women are different.
Anyway, how the fuck do all those differences combine into two people matching up and building a relationship; how do people connect and interact despite the myriad of differences? I don't know the answer.
I like to think I'm a reasonable man, have a sense of humour, an ethics and code of honour, integrity and a brain in my head, small and shaped like a peanut though it may be. I am a strong character, have values and associated opinions, and am passionate about most of what I do and my life in general. I'm generous, kind, courteous and giving and yet can be brutally honest, decisive and efficient in my prosecution of those who deserve such. I've done things others may look at and be reviled by, and I've done things that people would hail as saintly...Basically, I'm just your typical, average-as-fuck man; I refer to myself here in respect of on Hive and off.
But here's the thing...There's always a thing.
The thing
I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, meaning not everyone will respond to me well and some just fucken outright hate me. That's ok too, I'm totally fine with it because I understand that people don't always get along. I don't hate them for it, I just move on, pay them no mind, and get on with my life. Doing so leaves more time and capacity to invest into the relationships I want, I mean here on Hive and in real life, and I gain more value from them because of the investment.
But here's another thing...There's always another thing.
The other thing
Here on Hive I have a lot of relationships with a lot of people, all different types of personalities, cultures and so on...and I have female relationships here also and I think of them the same as the male ones, although I may swear a lot more to the fellows in comments. Essentially though, each are the same, a relationship with a person.
So, relationships with male and female users...and all despite me being a knucklehead, nutbag and whatever else I call myself, and that people perceive me to be.
The thing is, (I told you there's another thing), that people tend to match up according to how they feel about a person and here on Hive it's the writing, images, presentation and content of the posts, frequency and quality of the commenting, knowledge, how they treat other people, their sense of fun and humour and so on that people respond to. I mean, what else is there? I don't believe that people connect with me just because I'm male and I certainly don't look for a particular gender when building relationships here.
How we present ourselves will dictate who and why people decide to engage with us, not our genders. I don't know about you here, I speak for myself.
Unfortunately we don't generally have the ability to get face-to-face with each other on Hive but the principles are the same. Manners, courtesy, showing genuine interest, being understanding, actively participating in the relationship, being attentive, interesting, listening...if I was to meet a person in the real-world, say at a bar or function, these are the things I'd be doing, and I do the same on Hive - it's how relationships form.
It's difficult to fully understand who each of us actually is from just a post and some commenting; it's impossible really.
In the same way, it's impossible to judge the status of a relationship between two Hive users simply by observing a few comments from the outside of it as it's often a complex thing built over time and specific to those users. There's husband and wife users here, boyfriend and girlfriend accounts also, and those are easier to read but generally a few comments made between two people who met on the blockchain could be construed in any way at all, but perception isn't always reality. (It's actually mostly not the reality.)
Connections
The great thing is that connections can potentially happen between every user here and it's that which I want to ask you about in this post. Do you have a strategy on how you find and connect with others and how do you develop those into relationships?
Do you let-it-flow organically, or do you work at relationships, seek people out? I'm not one to connect only with people who like what I like, that's boring, but what about you? Do you find value in engaging with people who know or do things that you do not or do you only surround yourself with people who have the same interests, mushrooms or photos for instance? How do you nurture the relationships you create? Here's one for the brave souls...Have you ever felt close to someone you've met here on Hive? Have you felt connected in some way that goes deeper than a few posts and comments?
I believe a person could never know another, me included, by just a few posts and comments here on Hive - People are complicated and, of course, don't always reveal everything, or anything, here on the interwebs. What do you think? Feel free to comment below and let me know. You don't have to tag user names though, it's probably best you don't.
Design and create your ideal life, don't live it by default - Tomorrow isn't promised so be humble and kind
I toook the image in this post with my Olympus camera with a macro lens.
Relationships. I believe there are people that do come on Hive for friendship - of some kind.
I have been fascinated by the connections made, friendships forged, and meetups created. I have to admit, I have traveled to many places in our world, and yet, that instant connection when I sit at my computer (or phone) is still amazing to me, don't ever lose the excitement of that. It is interesting to read/see day-to-day life in places I haven't been to.
The war in Ukraine has been different than any war most have seen in their lifetime. I can connect with people still living as they are being bombed, it suddenly becomes very personal. It is not just some faceless person the news talks about. You know these people and speak or write to them. It changes how we look at things.
I became friends with Dan, @bluemoon in Romania. I have been to Romania before I met him, so I have never met him, and yet, he fascinates me. With different walks of life, he grew up with Communism and so, he has seen a life I have never truly experienced. I have been to countries that were communist, but, living it and visiting are two different things. We have found through many years of knowing each other, common ground and an interesting friendship. I enjoy interacting with him and am glad to count him as one of my friends here. If we met each other on the street, would we have become friends? I cannot answer that, but, here, you have time to get to know a person, without all the social restrictions that may apply.
I am free to roam the world.
That is certainly an interesting post, Galen. I love Hive for this little piece of the world it has given me. So many wonderful people and personalities.
Thanks for your valid and well-thought-out comment. (Not that your comments are ever not that.) I can't disagree with your thoughts on this matter, and yes I think people come here for friendship, some anyway.
I liked this bit a lot. I guess I was trying to allude to this scenario when I was describing myself above, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I wonder if those I engage with here, or who secretly have thoughts and opinions on/of me, would even bother to speak with me on the street, let alone get to know me. We'll never know I guess.
Thank you, I appreciate that. I also feel Hive has value far greater than the actual token; to you for sure and also to me Swigles. Can a price be put on friendship and connection? probably not.
You know my answer to that. It's never about the money for me, it never could be. Some things in life are priceless.
Exactly what I knew you'd say. I agree.
I love the way this sounds..love and light...that is the way it should be...When you see what fascinates you, be bold to go for it...I am happy that you have met someone you connected with....
You have a distinctive voice when you write. It makes people feel like they know you. I haven't been here that long, but if you wrote a few sentences I could probably tell it was you even if your name wasn't there. That's a strong advantage. One I can learn a lot from.
Hive is a lonely place without a strong voice that attracts people. Especially if you struggle with a lack of engagement. Hive is not the platform for the lazy and fearful. I got on Twitter for the first time a few days ago and have almost 400 followers already. And I don't post shit. Im still at 17 here, on my new account. For better or for worse, I think the grind factor will always scare the 80% on Hive.
Thank you, to me this is a compliment and I'm very appreciative of it.
I agree, it takes work. I've been here for over five years and started with nothing, just my brain and fingers to type. It's been a long haul, I can assure you.
Yes again. But, the grind factor scares people in real life in a society more intent upon rewarding mediocrity. I'm a reward-for-effort man, meaning I don't want to receive something for nothing, not do I prefer to give it. That doesn't mean I don't encourage others, just that I believe a person needs to work for what they want and believe in.
Thanks for your comment, it was a good one.
Of course. I meant what I said too.
You're right about people being scared about working in a society that rewards mediocrity. Social media rewards mediocrity. If you're not totally ugly you can post a few shitty photos with your shirt off and get a ton of likes.
In my own example I got almost 400 followers for retweeting other users shit-posts. If you're not aware, it convinces you that you accomplished something.
Hive occupies such a unique niche. Its social-media like but it only rewards hard work. You have to have skills to grow. I feel like the the Hive brand needs to lean in on this aspect. Instead of trying to go head to head with the giants, say, if you know what you're doing and will work, this is the better platform.
It doesn't come naturally to me, so I have to study and practice. But I'm enjoying the ride.
You make a good point about those 400 likes and how people could see it as an accomplishment. That's rewarding mediocrity as much as the shirt off scenario. But, what is a like worth anyway, and what relevance does it actually have Inna person's life? Oh yeah, that's right, none at all. But people chase them as if they're the most valuable commodity they could possess. It's bonkers.
I like what you said about Hive doing its own thing rather than trying to go up against platforms that are clearly targeting different segments and appealing to different people. But I don't know much about all that stuff, for me it's a place I can drop some writing and when it stops being enjoyable I'll disappear.
I completely agree. An entire generation chases likes without realizing they're shills for the tech companies. But, going against that model is the philosophy behind Hive. I guess we'll both see how much that plays out in the future.
We will. I'm hoping there's something in it, not just for my five+ years of effort, but in general; I think it's a nicer place than the other social medias which I wrote about in my very latest post only an hour ago.
I think it is interesting that there are people that have a different internet persona, like folks that are very shy but behind a screen are robust. Can't relate. I am as socially limited here as in real life - just don't have an interest in talking with lots of people. It is terrible for social media purposes, but I can't fake it. So in answer to your questions up there, I engage with people that I stumble across that are either amusing to talk to, or I feel a common thread, bonus if both. And yes, absolutely I feel a connection to some people here - the common thread people. Like finds like.
I agree. I have mates to do sensitive jobs so they appear to be different people on the interwebs but for those that know them it's clear they are being themselves, just filtering it somewhat. Having said this, most that do those roles aren't on social media as they see it as a waste of time, as do I.
Me too, although maybe a little differently. I am selective with people in the offline world and don't put myself out there much. I'm shy in real life although I suppose people don't see that. Their perceptions are often the reverse. Those who know me know I'm shy though, it's glaringly obvious.
It's like you're in my head Ginny. I mean, you very well could be because there's plenty of room in there. That little peanut-shaped brain of mine only takes up a small portion of room, barely a smidgeon, so if you were in there, you'd be livin' large like a celebrity or an oligarch.
I don't buy that for a minute :)
Just echoes Ginny.
There are two sides to a coin..The truth is that a person will only show you the side of them which they want you to see on social media , while there are also some people that the way they are in real life is exactly the same way they are on social media but it is not very common...
But as for me , if you meet someone you connect with, then it is great to start revealing your true self to them but it will not happen overnight, the trust and loyalty needs to be obvious before the person will become comfortable with you and be open minded towards you..
We also need to be very careful by not easily judging a person by what they say or do on social media, some people will appear nice and so sweet on social media but in real life they are a very big pain in the ass of so many people , some people are so caring on social media but in real life they cannot care to save a life , on social media some people are motivational speakers , but they destroy motivations in real life etc....
But that do not mean everyone behaves the same way, some people behaviours offline is the same behaviour they have online and vice versa...lovely posts from you sir...
Pre-judging people is one of the plagues of modern society.
Here's the thing...If someone does something bad on social media I judge them and find them wanting for it because bad behaviour is bad behaviour no matter where it comes from. A person who does such things, let's say online-bullying, is (to me) a terrible person and that assessment will carry over to the offline world also - it is, after all, in the offline world where they chose to engage and enact that behaviour.
On the other hand, I'm always rather sceptical of those who present themselves as saints (charities for instance) online as it's easy yo fabricate and mislead.
I guess that all sums up to people needing to display caution with online interactions.
I assume me mean inline and in person/real-world here but...how do you verify and confirm trust and loyalty online with someone you haven't met? Just wondering what your thoughts are.
Thanks for your great comment and interaction, I really appreciate it.
You know it goes with engagement in all aspects. Hive only works for you if you engage and put a part of yourself into it at least. It's the same with relationships whatever they may be called - you can't have a one sided friendship as it simply won't last.
I've come across people on Hive that at first I thought I liked and connected with but later on they kind of fizzled out and perhaps further down the line we will reconnect, but for me, there's really no real pressure. When I get the time on Hive I like to expand and find people that are not necessarily the same as me, but that are intriguing and interesting.
All relationships have moving parts and I don't think you can really get to know someone on Hive alone as you have no idea just how accurate the information they are putting out about themselves is, so you have to take it at face value with a grain of salt. At the end of the day the engagement here is still so much more authentic than other social media, I feel that you have a far greater opportunity to get to know someone better here.
I follow a small number of people and I'm perfectly happy with that as keeping the circle smaller tends to be better for rapport building.
Sorry if this comment seems jumbled, I'm really quite tired today.
I end these with brutal efficiency. A relationship/friendship has to be a two-way thing. If not, then it doesn't qualify to be called a relationship/friendship.
This seems like a feasible way to go; intriguing and interesting beats inane and boring.
Indeed, they could be fabricating...or on the flipside, just withholding. I know for sure that I don't say everything on here. The thing is that people fill in the blanks any way they like, right or wrong, and then that perception becomes their reality.
Here's some unsolicited advice: Go get some sleep. 😁
I've been doing the same, I've cut down a lot of friendships that simply weren't worth the effort because I was the only one putting in said effort.
I think that it could be fun to fabricate and entire profile but then aren't you just fooling yourself as much as the next person? I don't know, I think I'm a bit too straight cut to try that. It probably would be a lot of work to keep up that kind of façade although I think people do a lot of that in real life so maybe I'm just the weirdo here.
Lol, indeed an extra couple hours would be so fucking nice.
It can be problematic as sometimes one misses the person, but I guess if the friendship was so one-sided in the first place how much of a friendship was it really?
I think that it could be fun to fabricate and entire profile but then aren't you just fooling yourself as much as the next person?
Hmm, I don't know if it's fooling oneself. I guess it depends on the situation. Imagine, if you will, someone having a profile and presenting it to everyone as a real person with thoughts, events and stories attached, but in actual fact it's all fiction. I'm not sure it's fooling oneself...possibly it's just fictional writing. Don't authors do that all the time with characters? If, however, that profile was made and used for nefarious purposes, like to scam or troll people, then I'd say it was wrong.
Yes you're right there, authors do that all the time and even take on pseudonym names, some even leave it a complete mystery right up until they die or beyond, so as long as there's no harm in doing it then I say all good.
Some friendships can sustain long periods with no contact and can pick up where they left off, others can't. I think it depends on the people and the nature of the friendship. I have friends that I don't see for years but am filled with joy and love every time I do see them and I doubt that will ever change while other people I will try to stay in contact with and they just don't want to reciprocate so I stop bothering.
Long periods of no contact are different to contact going one way and never the other. It's that lack of reciprocal contact that ends a friendship rapidly for me.
For me personally,it is kinda hard to truly connect with people. I have been connecting for a while with an user and I really thought it was a woman, ended up being a man. Not much of a problem but it shows how much you don't know about someone.
I haven't been that long around here yet but I spend quite some time on online platforms since I was just a little child and I actually have two good friends who I met online through this platform, but the communication moved quickly from the platform to Whatsapp, which has a bit more privacy and makes it easier to chat about the more private stuff and connect on a deeper level.
Yeah, this happens I guess, and not just on Hive, but on all social media. People present themselves a particular way for whatever reason and sometimes it's not always for good reasons. This is why I'm cautious, but then I'm like that in real life too.
I think there's probably a few here who connect through other means, WhatsApp included and for exactly the reasons you mention. Again though, I guess some caution needs to be shown with the sharing of information. That's just my cautious side speaking I guess though, and I know a lot of people don't have the same security concerns as I do.
Thanks for commenting.
It's very interesting to meet and interact with someone online. I interact with a lot of people here, but I haven't met any of them in real life yet, some of them I've talked to on discord and some I've messaged. I consider every person I meet here as a friend and I try to follow all kinds of people and meet them, as long as I like their content and I see that they are active on Hive. Maybe if I attend the next Hivefest, I can meet some of the people I met here in real life or make new friends. I hope I can attend.
Hopefully you can make it to the next Hivefest to meet some of those you interact with. I've met several Hive people here where I live, probably around fifteen or so; we used to meet up monthly at a pub.
That's great. I want to organize some meet up too, not now because no one in my city but maybe in 2023.
Good luck with it,. I found it was nice to meet those people. We had picnics as a group, BBQ's and all and then a monthly meet up. It was pretty good indeed. I don't know why it didn't continue after the covid situation shut it down initially. It just never resumed.
Maybe you can continue it after this convo. You can ask them if they are available for a meet up.
That's a possibility.
Interesting post. Back in my counseling days, I used to do a thing I called "The Relationship Formula". It was a fantastic exercise that helped couples identify commonalities, and also help identify uncommunicated needs and wants. It was then a prelude to to more advanced "brutally honest, but not mean" communication skill training.
It was an even better tool for helping couples that were really already fully broken and apart recognize it and get the "permission" or come to that realization and acceptance to move on. I often claimed it would help them "fix their picker" and enable them to make a better future choice in their next relationship. It's amazing how many of them would come back to me a month or two after breaking up with someone and ask for another copy of it and a brief walkthrough of how to use it in their new dating efforts. I really enjoyed those sessions with people, would accomplish so much in a short time, and was rewarding to see the change. Definitely it was one of those you could just see the light bulb switch on.
Anyway you called it, relationships are relationships and not sex or love, although when all three are mixed it's a good thing!
Honest communication goes a long way and can be constructive if kept away from the mean or accusatory dialogues that could come from it. Moving forward collectively towards a common goal is usually the best way. But I'm not a counsellor of course.
I can see how you would gain a lot from those sessions also. I used to do the same in the mentoring and development of those placed under my influence. They would come along as young fresh-faced individual's and and I'd integrate them into the team, and help them grow and progress along the way as an individual; it had strong benefits to them personally and the team. It was rewarding, if super difficult at times.
I like your last comment above and agree completely. Maybe society isn't hitting the mark so well these days when it comes to relationships and the fact there's many forms of them. Who knows why, or even if it's true. I don't, certainly.
The first contact between two people is not the skin is the energy of our true essence and that energy is the perfect state to transform what aggregates us or makes us uncomfortable from where I am going to live, from anger, anguish, or LOVE?
I admire and fall in love with those who work from the heart, who are coherent, and sincere, and who feel passion for what they do. Sowing seeds of information!
Human biology acts according to its needs, women respond, feel and solve as we can and men do the same.
Women need to express themselves in one way, men do it differently.
To meet and come to an agreement is a postgraduate of life and to understand that you will never be understood 😀 it's easier!!!!! Breathe and continue
The reading of both sexes is the opposite, "however, there is complemented in it". No doubt, when we hear totally something else and a pitched battle originates... for example.
Nature IS, and against that there is no point in fighting. "Conscious" brain-heart interaction and along the middle line, this is what I think about it.
My respect and sincere friendship to you, Galen
A lack of sincerity is a reason I will choose not to engage with a person, male or female, and her le on Hive or in the real world. I also gravitate towards passionate people as I am also that.
Having said that, a person doesn't always have to like the exact same things as me, in fact I like the variety a person who does not have the same likes or dislikes brings.
At the end of the day though ai think it's all about the feel. If a person feels right then I'll move a little closer, if they feel wrong I'll run like hell.
Also, just so you know, if you quote someone, you need to ensure that the words are the very same as that person wrote. The text of mine you quoted above is not what I wrote. Words have been changed. The nature of a quote is that it is the very same text the person said or wrote. Just for next time, ok?
I agree, but I consciously took it to answer you Galen even knowing that it is not your line of thinking.....I apologize I should have written this that I do now.☮️
This is yours hahahah let me tell you something friendship when it is friendship flows without forcing anything.
If you don't get the same objective, don't wear yourself out, and don't waste your time, that objective is not yours!!! You look for something else. Letting go of the importance minimizes the difficulty to obtain the image of what we want and if it is not like that stick the race far away the way.
It's not a big deal in this case but in some situations misquoting someone could lead to complications, so I thought I'd point it out.
Oh yes, totally, and it is necessary to make the caveat of who quotes always thank you for the reminder to be taken into account. Infinite gratitude for the road traveled
Ahhhh relationships and hive...Now I have a story to tell about that XDD
In all honesty, I'm not a person who actively seeks out others to talk. I engage with whomever I find interesting, and then I move on to the next intriguing post to dump my thoughts in. I know that isn't all that good when you want to make connections but, well, I can't be bothered. If someone catches my eyes here, I talk. That's about it.
But the funny thing is, even with me being like this arrogant, almost introverted person here, hive has given me a lot.
For example- I've gotten a nice small circle of friends who at this point, understands me more than my real life folks. We talk, we hang out and we meet whenever we can, and it has been wonderful.
Hive has given me like-minded people to whom I can dump my thoughts without much judgement, which works like a charm when I am hyped up.
And lastly, which is unbelievable but, here in hive, I even managed to find the love of my life... XDD Yeap. Weird story, but I wouldn't have it in any other way.
Now, do I work for these relationships.. Yes, and no? I think that when you reach a level of understanding with an individual, you don't really need to constantly push to make things run. My friends here, they know how I am and in return, I know them. It works out, but given situation, I am ready to walk that extra mile for them..
I've not seen much evidence of you being arrogant. I'd actually not respond well to that and the fact I follow your account means I don't see it. Aloof may be a better word maybe?
So you found the love of your life here? This is intriguing indeed. You've been here since January this year so it's been rather quick work. I think connections and relationships can form quite strongly and maybe due to the separated nature of relationships from behind a keyboard, the safety or comfort of it, people feel the ability to open up more than that might in person?
Awww this literally made my dayy! Excuse me as I go and take a dosage of ego boost! 🤣
Jokes aside though, thanks. I often think I act arrogant because of this introverted personality of mine, but maybe you are right. It's me judging myself, but I appreciate you saying so.
And yeah, I did manage to find love here, as weird it may sound. Although I never was into this virtual dating thing, it worked out cause we live in the same city so. But being separated by a screen had been beneficial for me. It makes talking a lot easier, you know? I started talking thinking that I didn't have anything to lose here. Just one click and I'll be out.
While this same level of thinking does make some people do and say terrible things to each other online, it helped me to get closer to some people. I always take my time getting close to people who I meet in real life, but here, in hive which is essentially an online platform, things were different.
I think it has got to do with finding like minded people. Because I've been on Facebook twitter and other mainstream online platforms as well but none of them ever stuck. Hive is different, and to me it's even a better alternative. A safe place you can say.
And when we humans feel safe, we get comfortable. And getting comfortable led me to all this.
I guess there's no rules around where a person finds connections and we can't often dictate whom we may connect with or not; it just happens.
Living in the same city as that person helps, you can see them, connect in person, and that's important for relationships I think. Some make the long distance thing work though I suppose.
Long distance is a tough tough shit, I'm not gonna lie. And thank fuck I don’t need to go through that. We meet frequently, and thats good for me.
Connections does happen in a weird way, you never know where you’ll find something. Things just happen.
Definitely have some closer interactions with some users here on Hive more than others! I think it's natural that we have a liking to some people more than others, based on what they share or just their personality. Of course, it takes two hands to clap so how strong this link is depends on how much effort both parties put in to maintain it.
Effort is required in any friendship and and that effort must be mutually given. One-sided friendships don't often work out so well, much like the one-handed clap.
What a BUNCH of BS !!
ha ha....
I'm kidding, but I think I am adorable enough to get away with it.
The internet certainly did create a new category of friend-making possibilities. Certainly some have made friendships that have rolled out into the real world, but most will always be only connected by the net. To me, it is still real and I have made many friends along the way that I honestly consider real friends and they have true value to me.
I don't have a strategy for finding friends here though. I read posts and comment here and there and sometimes more comes of it..... sometimes not.
There is just no telling what kind of sweet or crazy friendships will end up coming out of it.
Oh ! ....and I also believe friendship only relationships are possible between men and women because I have some very good male friends, but I have met men that were unable to see it the same. It was either something special or nothing at all. I also respect that and carry on.
So...reading posts and commenting here and there...is your strategy. 🤣
I believe it's possible to connect online and build relationships that can be lasting. They're different from real life ones of course, but that doesn't mean they can be as deep or valuable to those within the relationship. It's can also mean that people who may never even consider a friendship can form one which is pretty cool in itself.
No it's not.
Hmm ok, I was only joking around with that comment. Hence the laughy face. Maybe it wasn't all that fun though, thinking on it in hindsight.
LOL... !!! You gave in too easy.
I always do...I'm a teddy bear, more suited to cuddling than arguing.
There wasn't a real argument.
Grrrrrrrteddy
Finding common ground connections, similar topics, debates, outlook in life. Normally supporting each other in communities we meet more like-minded folk is most probably first introduction.
Always being respectful, not everyone uses the same language, able to express what they try to project, sometimes reading or using translator one sees a very different picture, give people a chance.
Mutual respect, no strategy required, if one oversteps boundaries making another feel hurt or betrayed, walk away...
Unusual places or interests always worth looking at, learn something new! Stay grounded being who you are, acceptance in others as they are, no strategy difference be it in person or online.
It seems like you've summed it all up rather nicely here. I can't disagree.
Who are you trying to impress being someone else online? Makes no sense! We are all right and wrong 🙃
Me? No one. Others? No idea.
Yeah thought so, be yourself....
Me be me they be they. It's the only way for it huh?
More often than not, yep!
Keep in mind, there was no internet when Oscar Wilde wrote this quote, so relationships were more direct :)
Yeah, I think that's a good point. I wonder what he would have made of the internet, and men and women these days?
I have formed true friendships here on Hive. I am lucky enough to have met some of those people in person. Invited some to my home and met others on Hive meetups in other states. The great thing when meeting those people in person was how there was no weird first meeting awkwardness. We just met and hugged and never stopped talking and laughing.
How I was lucky enough to get to the point where I was friends with people I have only known through posts and comments was to follow my gut feelings when encountering new people here. Some of those friendships were short-lived, as they would have been in the real world, while others just naturally became deeper over time, as in the comments and on Discord, conversations were had and carried on.
I am just me always. On and Off the chain. I am a pretty good judge of character, so I know most times when someone just wants something from me. That doesn't bother me much as long as they are honest. I am willing to help anyone learn about my favorite place to be.
But, like when I saw your post.....whenever that was.....I felt a connection to the person that wrote the post. I wanted to get to know that person better, so I reached out and was happy with what I found. :D
If I knew you would be close to where I live, I would try to see you. I do not say that about everyone I meet on Hive. So, it's really about following my gut and being myself.
If someone doesn't like me, it's okay. I am not everyone's cup of tea.
Great post and thoughts!!
Happy Weekend to you!!
@Dreemsteem and I :D
If you bring cake things will go a lot smoother. Or corn chips and salsa. I'd settle for coffee and donuts. Or maybe just baked cheese cake. All of these things together would be the best ice-breaker though.
Cake, donuts, coffee, and cheesecake it is if we ever meet. You will have to bring chips and salsa :D Way too many kinds of salsa for me to guess what kind you like. :D
Sounds like the perfect ice breaker to me :D
I literally go nowhere without these items, ever.
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I think for me, one of the most rewarding aspects of Hive since I started was starting up the Rant community. I tend to follow people on my personal following feed, not that I am able to get to that frequently of late.. but the people in my following feed I find for one reason or another and like their content, personality and some other factors. Not going to lie I've followed someone for a pair of boobs before but then soon after came to realize that was not that beneficial for me outside of just that one aspect, which were pleasant for sure. But with the people I follow I guess it would generally be of content that I like in some way shape or form.
With the owning of the Rant community though, and my ethos of trying to comment on every post that gets put in there, I've been able to expand my horizons quite a bit and get to a lot more engagement and different types of content and people than I normally would be interacting with. I am finding that a lot of fun for sure! I think it breaks me out of my box without me needing to follow the user, if I generate some decent interaction with them it usually turns into them posting in the community more and it works out in the long run. I get gifted a post of theirs every now and then without clogging up my following feed more and we all win in the end.