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RE: Find a match

in Galenkp's Stuff2 years ago

I've been doing the same, I've cut down a lot of friendships that simply weren't worth the effort because I was the only one putting in said effort.

I think that it could be fun to fabricate and entire profile but then aren't you just fooling yourself as much as the next person? I don't know, I think I'm a bit too straight cut to try that. It probably would be a lot of work to keep up that kind of façade although I think people do a lot of that in real life so maybe I'm just the weirdo here.

Lol, indeed an extra couple hours would be so fucking nice.

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I've cut down a lot of friendships that simply weren't worth the effort because I was the only one putting in said effort.

It can be problematic as sometimes one misses the person, but I guess if the friendship was so one-sided in the first place how much of a friendship was it really?

I think that it could be fun to fabricate and entire profile but then aren't you just fooling yourself as much as the next person?

Hmm, I don't know if it's fooling oneself. I guess it depends on the situation. Imagine, if you will, someone having a profile and presenting it to everyone as a real person with thoughts, events and stories attached, but in actual fact it's all fiction. I'm not sure it's fooling oneself...possibly it's just fictional writing. Don't authors do that all the time with characters? If, however, that profile was made and used for nefarious purposes, like to scam or troll people, then I'd say it was wrong.

Yes you're right there, authors do that all the time and even take on pseudonym names, some even leave it a complete mystery right up until they die or beyond, so as long as there's no harm in doing it then I say all good.

Some friendships can sustain long periods with no contact and can pick up where they left off, others can't. I think it depends on the people and the nature of the friendship. I have friends that I don't see for years but am filled with joy and love every time I do see them and I doubt that will ever change while other people I will try to stay in contact with and they just don't want to reciprocate so I stop bothering.

Long periods of no contact are different to contact going one way and never the other. It's that lack of reciprocal contact that ends a friendship rapidly for me.