Hello my amazing community.
Trust we're all doing good? It's an amazing topic for the week and I'd like to share something interesting with us.
For years, I lived on the lie that being quiet meant I was at peace.
I believed that if I stayed calm, avoided confrontation, and kept my thoughts to myself, life would just remain balanced.
My Silence felt like maturity and endurance felt like wisdom. I thought that choosing not to speak was proof that I had grown or something.
So I became good at being quiet.
I stayed quiet when things really hurt me and even when I felt misunderstood. Quiet when my boundaries were crossed by people around me. I told myself it wasn’t worth explaining, that people should already know better, reacting would only complicate things or make me look like an underage.
There were times people really hurt me, but I chose to be quiet and let it go without speaking to them about it.
But silence didn’t heal anything, it only hid it.
Every unspoken thought became a burden I carried alone. I always swallowed my emotions and they found a place to settle in my heart. I lost my peace while avoiding trouble and misunderstanding.
This made me write one of post with the caption “your peace is precious too”
The more I stayed quiet, the more invisible I felt. People assumed I was okay with whatever they did because I never spoke up. They mistook my silence for agreement, my patience for acceptance, and my endurance for peace. For reals, I always felt bad about all these.
The truth about the whole thing is that peace is not the absence of noise or being quiet, but it's the presence of truth. Being quiet can sometimes be wisdom, but when it costs your voice, it becomes self-neglect.
Unlearning this particular lie has been so uncomfortable. It means speaking even when my voice shakes and when I don't want to. I just decided to choose honesty over harmony and self-respect over approval and that's because my feelings and peace don’t need anybody's permission to exist.
I’m still learning when to be silent and when to speak. But now I know that silence should only be a choice to me and not a cage.
And I refuse to lose myself again in the name of being quiet.
SHALOM
I invite @soma18, @fashtioluwa and @afrikens to make their entry.
I could have sworn you wrote about the inner part of me that has up to date, remained unspoken and unknown to everyone else but me.
I wish I could say that I used to do that alot but unfortunately, I still do. I always have.
Keeping mute when my voice should have been heard, enduring when I wasn't supposed to.
Oh yes, I've found myself in countless situations when I get hurt by others but choose not to say a word because I expect them to be aware. You know, put themselves in my shoes and that sort of thing but I've come to realise it never helps. And I'm struggling to make a change.
Nice to read from you again gurllllllllll 😉... Hope you've been cool?
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Thank youuuuuuuu 🤭
This was my case but I just discovered that people didn't even appreciate how much I overlooked them and kept mute even when it hurts. I had to start speaking up, though I'm still learning when to speak and when not to.
My peace really matters and it's precious to me.
I think it's time you protect your peace and speak up when you don't feel comfortable with any situation.
Thank you so much for this wonderful comment and for stopping by my girl...
Between, I'm so sorry for late response.
Hope you're good too??
I'm glad you've made a change towards that already... Hoping to effect mine soonest cause my silence has done more harm than good.
It sure does so yeah, time to start prioritising it.
You're welcome gurllllllllll.
Not a problem and yes, I'm very well thank you 💜.
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Being quiet can make people underestimate or look down on us. I am happy that you are finding your voice
Thank you so much for your nice comment 😊
Thank you for sharing
Hmmm my immediate elder sister lost herself because of this same thought. Please speak up when needed, we human can never get satisfied. Thanks for sharing.
We all should learn to when it's necessary.
Thank you for stopping by bby
You're welcome.