There is no greater blessing than having the elders’ shadow over us, especially our parents. No matter what condition they are in, children always want their parents to remain with them forever. I am sharing these thoughts because my family has recently lost my grandmother. She passed away last week. May Allah grant her forgiveness and the highest place in Jannat-ul-Firdous.
Normally, I don’t write posts like this, but I was inspired when I saw my elder brother’s post on Facebook, where he wrote like this:
آج میری نانی امی بھی اس دنیا سے رخصت ہوگئیں، یوں لگتا ہے جیسے زندگی کے اس طویل سفر کا ایک اور قیمتی باب بند ہوگیا ہو۔ انا للہ و انا الیہ راجعون۔
ان کا وجود ہمارے لیے صرف ایک ہستی نہیں، بلکہ وہ ہماری زندگی کا وہ رشتہ تھیں جن سے محبت، دعاؤں اور نصیحتوں کا خزانہ ہمیشہ ملا۔ یوں محسوس ہوتا ہے جیسے ہماری جڑوں سے ایک اور رشتہ ٹوٹ گیا ہو اور اب ہم ماضی کی ان یادوں میں گم ہوکر صرف دعاؤں کے سہارے ہی ان سے جڑے رہ سکتے ہیں۔
وقت کی اس کروٹ نے ہمیں یہ سکھا دیا ہے کہ دنیا کی ہر چیز فانی ہے، لیکن ان کی دعائیں اور محبتیں ہمارے دلوں میں ہمیشہ زندہ رہیں گی۔ آج ایک اور رشتہ ہم سے جدا ہو گیا، مگر ان کی یادیں اور نصیحتیں ہمارے ساتھ ہمیشہ چلتی رہیں گی۔
تمام احباب سے دست بستہ درخواست ہے کہ ان کی مغفرت اور بلند درجات کے لیے دعا کریں۔ اللہ تعالیٰ ان کو جنت الفردوس میں اعلیٰ مقام عطا فرمائے اور ہمیں صبر جمیل نصیب کرے۔ آمین
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English Translation:
"Today, my grandmother also left this world. It feels like another precious chapter of life has come to an end. Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. She was not just a person for us, but a bond from whom we always received love, prayers, and wisdom. It feels like another connection to our roots has broken, and now we can only stay connected through prayers and memories. This moment has taught us that everything in this world is temporary, but her prayers and love will always remain alive in our hearts. Today, we lost another relationship, but her memories and teachings will continue to guide us. I humbly request everyone to pray for her forgiveness and elevated status. May Allah grant her the highest place in Jannat-ul-Firdous and grant us patience. Ameen."
I used to think that writing about someone’s passing wasn’t appropriate, but after reading my elder brother’s post, it felt right. Whoever reads it will know about our grandmother.
One day, we all have to leave this world—there’s no doubt about it. But living a peaceful and successful life is something not everyone can achieve. My grandmother’s biggest accomplishment was that she lived her entire life peacefully and contentedly, and she witnessed many moments of happiness.
First, she fulfilled her duties as a daughter, then as a wife. Back then, marriages used to happen early, so perhaps she got married before she was 18. She handled all the responsibilities of being a wife with grace. Then came the stage of becoming a mother, which she also fulfilled beautifully. I can say this because my mother is her daughter, and all the good qualities my mother has must have come from her own mother’s teachings.
After becoming a mother, she became a mother-in-law, a grandmother, and even a great-grandmother. She played all these roles and even spent time with the next generation. She understood everyone’s minds and emotions.
When I was getting married five years ago, I was really worried about my grandmother’s health. I prayed that she would stay healthy and be present at my wedding because her health had started to decline at that time. I even told my wife about this after the wedding. Thankfully, she was there at my wedding, and we had a wonderful time together.
Although my grandmother was generally fine, her condition worsened in the last week, and her illness increased. There was talk of admitting her to the hospital. This is just my personal opinion, not everyone’s, but I feel that it was better for her to pass away peacefully at home rather than suffer more in the hospital. Even though it was painful, I tried to comfort everyone by saying that what happened was for the best for her. I want to remember all the good times we spent with her and share those memories with my children. I am happy that my children had the opportunity to play and enjoy time with their great-grandmother.
We may forget words, but memories always stay with us. Now, my only prayer is that wherever she is, she is at peace and enjoying her afterlife.
