RE: Between pain and gain

Hey! Thank you! Ahhh you described it so well. An itch. We need to shake that sensation off as soon as we feel it. We can never change people, we can't force them to be something they are not. I am convinced that any person can become better and change themselves, but I made peace with leaving people just the way they are if there aren't any signs of improvement. I think this whole itchyness comes from our ideals of love. From our expectations. From our inner insatisfaction with what we might be ourselves. I find that investing our energy in what we want to be, do, say is better than investing that energy in someone else. As soon as we become better, our whole perspective will shift.

Our projection is indeed an illusion. We have projections for the past and for the future, ignoring the now. Here it is the vital mistake most of us do. They choose partners based on what they would want from them in the future. Once you let that idea go... People will either change, walk away or stay. It is very simple actually to make good choices, that is why we complicate it.

Thanks for reading this and have a lovely week-end😊📖