Children misbehave at every point in life, sometimes they display a character trait that would make you question yourself if this was the same person you raised as a child. And when a child misbehaves society always blames it on the parents "the innocent parents" and why is that?
It is the responsibility of every parent that their offspring turns out well in society, imagine being placed on such responsibility, parenting does not come with any manual that tells you how to raise your child, I don't know how parents get to do it but then they still do it so perfectly regardless "they deserve an applaud always".
Growing up, we were taught all we needed to navigate through life though not fully but then we had the right upbringing "Not every child had that". The major things we were taught were the basics of life, which are good and bad traits, parents would tell their children that stealing is bad, yet some children would go ahead and steal " Is that the fault of the parents?" No parents enjoy it when their children become a nuisance to society.
Every parent's dream is to watch their child grow into an amazing being that influences society's positivity and not the other way around.
I'm not gonna leave an aspect where parents need to be blamed, some parents have failed to give their children the right upbringing, I've seen how some parents treat their children, not all children are privileged to experience love in their homes, some children were raised in pain and distress.
Little story: back then in school, my best friend had this friend who'd always come around when we were hanging out, there was a day we were having a conversation "You know how one conversation leads to another" Yeah!! It started like this, we were just talking when the conversation escalated and went into some personal stuff.
This guy (my best friend's friend) shared his childhood experience, at a very young age, he noticed his parents didn't love him, I was like "How did you know that" he said he knew because of the way they treated him, on like the others, he was treated differently, he felt like he was adopted because of the maltreatment he experienced from his parent.
So he told himself he wasn't gonna care about them, he was gonna live his life the way he liked since he wouldn't be questioned if something went wrong. He lived to the point that he started stealing and doing all sorts of things, after a while he had to sit down and question himself if this was the kind of life he wanted to live.
Immediately he refrained from the things he was into and started retracing his steps to the person he is today.
Back to the question:
Parents are likely to be blamed when a child turns out to be a nuisance to society, and that brings the upbringing part into play. But that doesn't mean the children shouldn't be blamed as well though. Every adult has a right to decide what he wants in life, thats why the almighty embedded in us the freedom to choose.
Parents should do better in raising their children in a way they would be proud of and then the children should be able to make the right choices in life, decision that brings love, harmony, and peace to society, not the ones that will destroy society with bad character!!.
Final answer: Blame it on both of them because both have a role to play in it.
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Yes, there are some good parents out there who will never compromise their value for anything but some parents are not just worth it.
There was a time when my child's school cardigan was missing and we later saw this cardigan with another pupil. She wore it to school with my child's name boldly written on it. Who should we blame for this, the little girl or the parent?
In this case, it's the parents that are to be blamed, your child brought something to a house that isn't hers and they still allowed the child to wear that same thing to school with someone's name written on it, "No na"
Who knows if the child hid the cardigan in her bag and wore it the next day, but then at that early stage, it isn't nice, I feel parents should put an extra eye on their children, this particular act can be described as stealing.
That is it👍
If I see any strange thing in my home, they return it immediately and with a serious warning so that it won't repeat itself.
Yeah!!! I feel like you are a good mum😊😊😊😊
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Some children may mistake strict discipline for hate, as in the case of your friend's friend, thank God he retraced his steps on time.
Being very strict and not receiving love are two different things, growing up my mum was on the strict side but I still knew she loved me with the kind of things she did and the way she treated me.
Both kids and parents are to blame because they all have a role indeed
Yeah!! They do
You are absolutely right, the blame is for both but I believe the lion share of blame will be on any parent whose child goes wayward.
Yeah, both of them have to be blamed for it but blaming parents more isn't something I find nice... Parents have tried their best to raise children into what they want but some of these children in question will decide to go astray
Yes!
They've all got a role to play
But also, they should always endeavour to raise there children in a way that make you be at peace
Yeah!! I agree with what you've just said