I see that people pleasing is fast becoming a menace in the lives of a lot of us. It takes just one resolution that'll stick to our brain to help us stop. I have tried it, and I can tell you that it works.
Learning to say NO and sticking with it has never killed anyone. Rather, taking responsibilities beyond capacity kills instead, and I don't mean it kills to heaven, rather, I mean that it kills aspirations, goals, and one's ability to think without putting other people first.
Yeah you right, it takes high level of self evaluation to dictate loop holes such as this in our lives, just like I have, I believe with time I would be able to manage it.