I like your husband big time. It is good as he did that because the cousin needs to learn and not do the same outside because that kinda behavior blocks opportunities.
My dad knows I can afford whatever allowance he gives me anyways but yet he gives me but you know what, I never behave as if I am bigger than it. I thank him as if it is the only money I have left.
That's how it should be. Gratitude is a must quality for every individual.